Celebaby: Please Explain This To Me...

4 August 2011

celebaby4AugustSo, here's the scenario...

You're diagnosed with a rampant strain of throat cancer and facing the very real prospect of shuffling off the planet before you're ready.  You will leave behind a wife and two little kids - the thought of which completely and utterly tears your heart to shreds.

You know you shouldn't have smoked heavily for all those years before but you, along with most people, figured the 'Big C' would target someone else.

Next you undergo the hell that is radio and chemotherapy; the stress and strain of it all takes it out of you and every member of your family.  Will you beat it, or will the cancer beat you?

HURRAH! You beat the cancer!!!  Against all medical odds you've fought your way back to health.

You've been given a second chance; your young children aren't going to be left without a father and your wife is relieved she's not going to be a widow.  The whole episode has really affected her though and it turns out she's bipolar - maybe not as a result of your illness, but it certainly won't have helped.

Now you've got the all clear, what are you going to do?  Make sure you don't invite death to have another go at you, right?  Look after and value your health, yes?

Anyone in their right mind will be nodding away in agreement.

Not if you're Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones though, oh no!

As they've both been pictured merrily smoking away recently, I can imagine they'd just roll their eyes and spark up another fag, because CLEARLY lightning isn't going to strike them twice!

Obviously there are different rules for Hollywood royalty than there are for the rest of us mere mortals; silly me for thinking anything else.

Don't get me wrong, I've smoked my fair share of cigarettes in the past but not any more; if I'd fought off throat cancer and was able to look forward to seeing my children grow up, when I really thought I was going to have to say goodbye to them, I can GUARANTEE that I would NOT go near a cigarette again.

Let me clarify that - I can GUARANTEE I'll never go near another cigarette again and I don't even need to have throat cancer before I make that decision.

I'm really beginning to rant now - PLEASE, tell me I'm not in the minority here.

I've read what the psychs have to say on the subject, that people often don't quit once they've been diagnosed because they figure the damage has already been done - I get that, in a weird kind of way.

But to carry on smoking when you've been diagnosed, told cancer to GET LOST, won the battle and come out the otherside?  UTTER MADNESS and, quite frankly, bloody irresponsible!

Imagine how those kids would feel...

"So let's get this straight...Dad had cancer, fought it, beat it and was given a clean bill of health..."

"Yes, that's right."

"Then he started smoking again and now he's dead."

"Yes, that's right."

"Gee, THANKS dad! Cheers for ranking cigarettes above being there for us as we grew up; just awesome, what a guy!"

I'm going to step away from the keyboard now; I'm not sure it can take much more angry typing abuse *mutter, mutter*

12 comments

  • Marie
    You know what, I am scared every day that I will be told I am sick. I want to see my babies grow up and have babies of their own. I want to be with my husband, my best friend and love of my life, for as long as possible. Do I light up? Yes I do, because I am an addict. Believe me I have tried everything, cold turkey, NRT, Zyban (almost sent me off the deep end). Congratulations on kicking the habit. My husband gave up last November, just like that. I have been trying so hard to stop for 16 years (I'm 30). I have smoked more than half my life. I am terrified, but like most true addicts, I spark up. I say a slient prayer that I won't be the one. I know they are only excuses, but life at the moment is stressful. With two babies to care for, severe PND and poorly family, I have enough on my plate to worry about. If I was sick then got better, but was still addicted, I would continue to smoke. If I got better, but had conquered the addiction during treatment, then of course I wouldn't smoke again. I wish I could rant and get on my high horse. Anyway, this isn't even about a Celebaby. It's about their parents and doesn't relate to pregnancy or their kids growing up. You just crowbarred your opinion on a public forum. I come here for deals, reviews and a bit of light entertainment. Since when has Playpennies become a cheap tabloid? I won't bother with Playpennies anymore or recommend your site to my friends and family. I thought it was supposed to be about helping parents spend their pennies wisely. Maybe fags isn't a wise way to spend my pennies, but my babies have all they need. They might not have what they want, but they have what they need.
  • Marie
    Also, to imply that someone who smokes loves smoking more than their kids is just plain stupid. Everyone needs food and water to function, it doesn't mean they love food and water more than their kids. I need nicotine and Citalopram to function. It doesn't mean I love cigarettes and anti-depressants more than my girls.
  • clare
    I am sorry, but this absolutely disgusts me! This is selfish on so many levels, those poor children. This also makes a mockery of everyone who ever felt bad for the family going through such a terrible time. When I heard that he had cancer I felt so bad for him and his family and wished he had a full recovery, but to see both of them being so stupid makes me wish I had saved my thoughts for someone who really needed it. Its like alcoholics being given transplants only to go back on the drink. Surely if the prospect of death and leaving your family doesnt change your attitude then nothing will. I still feel for the poor children. Inevitably it wont be long until they lose their father and i wonder how mummy will explain that he was given a second chance but threw it away. SO many do not get that second chance :(
  • Steve
    Well said. Be interesting to hear your reply playpennies. I am not a smoker both currently or in the past but i couldn't help but wonder why you'd decided to go on a rant about this! Each person (celebrity or whoever) has a private life & with that comes it's own highs/lows; who are we to judge?!
  • Lynley O.
    No you don't need nicotine to function. That's the addiction talking. I as like you at 30. But I gave up. You can too. Once you've got past your addiction you can see it for what it is. And as someone who's been where you are I can see that your whole reply is simply the addiction talking. Why would you get so upset that you'd leave an entire site over one post in what is a daily meal of ten posts, or 70 posts a week? Your addiction doesn't like you being confronted with the truth. My greatest fear is that my children will have to live without me. That they'll have a mother shaped hole in their lives. I couldn't do that to them, and I'll never smoke again. Nor will I go to war zones, or forget to check both ways when crossing the road. As someone who has grown up with a parent who's addicted then yes that's exactly what the child thinks. That what it comes down to is the parent loves the ciggies more than you. That even when diagnosed with COPD that will mean they can't get on a plane to visit you anymore, they would still rather carry on smoking, than give up for the sake of their children.
  • bob
    cjill out bitches
  • debadwolff
    just a quickie to say my dad smoked for half his life before his wife became pregnant with me. as soon as he heard that (and my mum saying she didn't want him to carry on smoking) he stopped. picked up the remainder of the packet and chucked it away. and that's from 30 a day. i have never touched one but having spoken to friends of my parents, many have said that if you have a will you can stop and never pick it up again. maybe i'm naive but especially with children around the house, a parent needs to stop. i think it's this generation that just have no will-power with these things. wow, i sound about 70 but i'm only in my 30s!
  • Paula
    I have a friend who's husband had a heart attack was told to quit smoking and drinking. Basically change his life style. He didn't and had another heart attack. He had a heart bypass. Still didn't change his ways. The third heart attack killed him. My partner's Dad was the same. He had a heart attack was told to change his life style. He refused. Ended up back in Hospital, where he had another heart attack that killed him. I can't understand why these two people would do this.
  • Lynley O.
    I don't understand it either Paula. How could it be more important to drink or smoke than to be there for your family? Debadwolff not all! I gave up just like that too. Woke up one day and decided that would be the day. I didn't want to be sick from it. My other half was an even heavier smoker than me and he did it too, just like that, for his kids. I have known people who have had drink problems or been addicted to various drugs, and have given it up for their kids. Surely it is what you do?
  • A M.
    I heard they were e-cigarettes?
  • Frank
    Yes i used to smoke. Lucky Strike + Chesterfield, not weak cigs. Then I realised that I had become subserviant to some piece of dried plant. Gave up immediately. Not easy, but each day without a cigarette made me more certain that I would not start again otherwise all that displeasure i had gone through would have been a waste. Yes I do still get the pangs when someone light up, BUT i absolutely hate the smell of stale tobacco on clothes.
  • Lisa
    I get that some people just don't have the will power, strength or courage to give up but when children are involved they should be the priority. I used to smoke for years myself but from the moment I was trying to conceive I gave up and have never looked back. I love my daughter more then anything and would do anything for her no matter how hard it is for myself as she always comes first.

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