Messy Rooms Good For Kids?

Messy Rooms Good For Kids?
9 April 2016

Saturday morning means one thing to my kids: Mum's going to make us tidy our bedrooms. They'll do everything they can to get out of tidying their rooms but when it comes down to it, they'll end up obliging because there's no pocket money cash unless they do.

But according to the Telegraph, I might be doing the wrong thing by making the kids clean their bedrooms.

The paper reports:

But maybe it's the rest of the house that's the problem: according to recent research undertaken as part of Homebase's "life improvement" campaign, only 69 per cent of teenagers said they felt truly relaxed at home. That figure includes their own bedrooms, meaning that three in 10 don't feel they can unwind even in their own beds.

My heart sank when I read that. Call me a sucker for a clever news hook, but I hate the idea of my kids not feeling able to relax at home because of my hoovering obsession, or unwillingness to tolerate their rooms resembling some sort of science explosion.

Apparently, giving teens a 'third space' - a room dedicated to their use which isn't their bedroom - is one way of changing that. While on the one hand a den or teen hangout is a clever way of containing the mess that kids invariably make, it can also help them develop some independence, it seems.

We'd love to hear your views on this story, as we think it relates to younger kids as much as to teens. Do you have a 'third space' in your house such as a playroom or TV den for the kids?

And how do you feel about the idea that kids should be allowed to have messy bedrooms? Come and share your views on our Facebook page or leave us a comment below.

TOPICS:   Parenting Tips


  • Denise C.


    • Denise C.

      It's not true. Ha. Clean room, clean mind! Xxx

  • Lauren O.

    Load of rubbish! X

  • Melanie T.

    might be good for kids but not for mummy!! you know what they say happy wife happy life!

  • Nicola C.

    A chaotic house is a chaotic mind.

  • Sarah R.

    Could not cope with that mess , teaching them to tidy up after themselves is a life skill !

    • Helen L.

      Isn't that the truth. Kids 40 years ago didn't have: playrooms, snugs, games rooms etc. They shared bedrooms and helped their families look after their homes. Most of them grew up being able to fend for themselves. Most 20 year olds now can't even boil an egg and think the world owes them everything on a silver platter and we wonder why they turned out that way . . .

  • Gillian G.

    :joy::joy::joy::joy: What's your opinion :thinking:

    • Libby G.

      I must have very relaxed chilled out weans....

  • Helen L.

    With today's over inflated house prices, who can afford a house big enough to give each child 2 rooms. I'm sure wealthy children are happier than impoverished, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out.

  • Hayley O.

    4 hours later today I tend to disagree with this...:grinning::grinning:

  • Helen A.

    Mine share a playroom. All their stuff wouldn't fit if they had to keep it in their bedrooms.

  • Amelia A.

    A happy balance, not over tidy not too messy, as long as they learn when and how to clean and tidy up.

  • Heather J.

    Load of rubbish,

  • Alice J.

    Said no parent ever

  • Suzanne C.

    Seriously !!!:joy::joy::joy::joy::joy::joy:!

  • Melanie A.

    Well I compromise with my two during school hols they can relax and have slightly messy rooms but once they back to school their rooms have to be kept tidy so we can find things we need when we need them.

  • Corrina T.

    Don't mind my son making a mess through the day when he's playing but I like it tidied up at night before bed time :ok_hand_tone1:

  • Sarah L.

    Are messy rooms good for parents though? Tripping over toys and hurting our feet on lego.

  • Mairi R.

    Messy fine minging not a chance

  • Tina R.

    Just as well really cos I'm bloody sick of tidying them!

  • Susan W.

    :scream::scream: X

    • Susan W.

      I know I couldn't deal in mess :grimacing:X

    • Sarah W.

      Me neither would drive me mad :rolling_eyes: xx

  • Lynsey S.

    I love tidy rooms but let things slide a but in the kids room...until I can't stand it any longer and then we have a big tidy! Rest of the house the kids have to tidy their mess away when they are finished what they are doing.

  • Katie T.

    Guess I'm lucky, the house we live in has a loft space that we use as a playroom. All the eldest child's toys are up there, as she has a very small bedroom, the two babies share a room and have their baby toys in there. We have had to share out the space this way because of the age gap between the children (7 years) means we have to keep most of the eldests toys away from the babies for their safety and so the eldest can't throw a wobbler if they damaged something. I'll tell you now, giving a child a second room that they can make a mess in does not help keep bedrooms tidy, it doesn't make them more relaxed and all it does do is give me another room I've got to go into at regular intervals to remove bin bags full of rubbish, broken toys they have hidden and find random bits of games that were thrown out months earlier when said bits couldn't be found. And I know for a fact she's not in the slightest bit relaxed when she knows I'm going up there to give it a hoover, she knows batshit crazy mummy is about to arrive!

  • Sam C.

    When you have people around you think you've got depression. Because you have washing to do or a messy room. Even with four kids. But we have messy rooms more that is our room it's like a laundrette :see_no_evil:

  • Hayley S.

    Load of rubbish!! Children need to learn to clean up after themselves or they will end up living like slobs!!

  • Shamim

    Good idea. But who can afford a house with a chill out room for teenagers

  • Sujeewa G.

    Exactly. The chill out room can be the garden in all weathers :joy:

  • Leanne J.

    :joy:, my daughter must be more than happy she must be extatic all the time :smile:Xxx

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