Passing Judgement On The "Other" Parent

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It was Father's Day there on Sunday, and this seems to have stirred up a lot of LOVE and HATE in the world of celebrities. Yesterday, I was reading about how Brian McFadden had publicly praised his ex-wife Kerry Katona's current husband, George Kay for "keeping his family together". I must admit to being cynical as to whether this good gesture was sincere or not or if they are all in need of exposure.

Whatever the reasoning though it was a refreshing change to hear a positive word being spoken about a step parent. It can be tricky seeing someone else take some of the responsibility in bring up your child/children. There's that risk they won't take to them at all and then what if they are too good and win your child's affections completely? My theory is if my kids love them and are happy then so am I.

Then to the other extreme... Today, I read that Charlie Sheen has apparently branded his ex-wife and mother of their two daughters, the "worst mom alive!" via Twitter. Is it ever okay to say such a thing?

This has really got me thinking. I split up from my partner many years ago now and have since become a step parent myself. When you split and you have two different set of rules for the kids, it's so easy to fall into the trap of bad mouthing one another. Is that okay though? Does it actually help the situation? From personal experience, I have learnt that the answer to that for me is no. Whilst, you may not get on with the "other" parent, you must be respectful of that parent's way of being a mum/dad/step parent. After all, they might not think your way is up to scratch either. I guess in the same token, I have taken on-board different ways of doing things.

What about praising one another? Does this happen enough? I know I am quick to find fault but what about saying thanks when it's a job well done? My children rave about their step parent and that makes me happy. I am thankful that whilst things are different in our home to their "weekend" home, and that they are content in both.

Apart from those that are the extreme, for example those who don't pay child maintenance. Is it ever a good idea to comment on the"other" parent and is Twitter the way to do it? Let us know what you think!

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