Should Kids Offer Seats To Adults?

Should Kids Offer Seats To Adults?
12 August 2017

Should children be made to offer their seat to adults on public transport?

That was the topic of debate on Good Morning Britain earlier this week, and the issue has since provoked quite the debate online. (Ok, and in the Playpennies office...)

Etiquette expert William Hanson argued that children should offer their seats to adults as a mark of respect for their elders.

The Mirror reports:

The OnePoll survey of 1,000 adults, carried out on behalf of ITV’s GMB, found that 80% of over 55s think children should give up their seats, compared to 31% in the 18-24 age bracket.

Overall, 59% of adults think children should give up their seats for adults on public transport, including etiquette expert William.

"We're raising children to think they're little angels and when they grow up they transfer that into the workplace and it's a shock. That's not how life works," he said.

I'm going to get roasted for this, no doubt, but I'm inclined to agree.

As a child, I was taught to show respect for my elders – whether that meant offering my seat to an adult or walking in single-file when people approach you on the pavement so they're not forced to step into the road.

Yes, those are old-fashioned values that seem vaguely antiquated in the context of the modern world, but I think if more parents raised their children to have greater consideration for others, we might live in a less dog-eat-dog world.

I disagree with Hanson when it comes to kids being less important than adult though. That's rot, in my view. I encourage my old kids to offer their seats to their elders on public transport because it's the polite, well-mannered thing to do, not because I think my children are lesser citizens. And in the long-run, it's actually about raising my kids to become the kind of men who offer their seats to others.

I wouldn't ask a child under the age of 8 or 9 to give up their seat - buses and trains aren't designed for children so young to stand, so that wouldn't be safe. But once my kids are old enough to hold the hand rail and balance safely, I would.

And I don't hold with the idea that we should *just* offers seats to pregnant women or the elderly and disabled. Plenty of disabilities are invisible, after all.

But what's your view? Should children be encouraged to give up their seats for adults on public transport? We'd love to hear your thoughts. Come and have you say over on our Facebook page or leave us a comment here.

169 comments

  • Joyce T.

    I did to elderly people when I was a kid. My mum made sure of that.

  • Samantha L.

    I'd be fine for my teenage daughter to give up her seat but not for my 5yr old boy,if someone elderly or pregnant or needed seat then he would sit on my lap but I would not expect him to stand

    • Claire H.

      Agree. A 5 year old would be in more trouble than a teenager. Not the same sense of balance

    • Donna A.

      I was about to write the same thing. I pull my 4 year old onto my lap if seats are needed but feel it would be very unsafe to have her standing xx

  • Ciara A.

    I would give up my own seat before I would expect my children to..

    • PushingZedzzzzz

      I agree, I would give my seat up rather than my child giving up their's.

  • Lynsay H.

    I think that under 8 no as they are unable but I also don't make my 10 year old as he has an invisible disability and this does cause issues I on the other hand will let someone elderly have my sir if needed, (not that we use public transport very often we tend to walk or drive through this reason)

  • Leona R.

    I'd give up my seat before my 5 year old does that or she can sit on my knee

  • Roxy B.

    depends on who needed it? Id expect a healthy adult to move for my kids but we'd happily move for the elderly.

    • Kristina B.

      Sadly most people would rather watch you struggle with your children as they are 'your problem, not theirs' If only we were a less selfish and more thoughtful society, as a whole

  • Julia C.

    Definitely otherwise they will never learn common courtesy and manners x

  • Jo D.

    It depends if I'd paid for their seat or not

  • Julia P.

    I'm not sure what's even a discussion being as the majority of adults are so selfish they wouldn't give up a seat to a pregnant lady, an elderly person or someone with an obvious disability or broken leg. Adults need to learn to teach by example and should work on themselves first. But then yes in a perfect world adults and then children should give up seats to a person in need although I suspect a small seated child is much safer than a seated adult.

    • Charlotte N.

      If we teach children to do it now, they will become the adults who do offer their seat when they're older.

    • Caroline T.

      True Julia I was heavily pregnant on a bus once it was packed and not one person offered me a seat

    • Kathlynn I.

      I always give up my seat for anyone who needs it more, I also teach my 10 yr old to to do it, my nearly 4yr old stays seated she's to young for standing yet

    • Alison M.

      I was heavily pregnant on a packed train no one offered me a seat. I was brought up give my elders or infirm a seat my kids will be brought up the same !!

    • Karen G.

      Treat people how you'd like to be treated. You can't control others behaviour, only your own. Everyone, should give up a seat to those more in need.

    • Hann B.

      Lead by example doesnt mean a child should offer a seat.. The adult should.. If my daughter stood up she would be sent flying a pregnant woman is safer to stand...so it should be on priority to who needs it

  • Claire S.

    If there was someone elderly who needed a seat I would give my seat up for them my little boy is 4 bit different if it was my teenage daughters

  • Ellen M.

    If you have to pay for their seat then I don't think they should be expected to give it up, I would give mine up first!

  • Jo L.

    I don't see why any child should give up their seat for an adult. I wouldn't want my child to fall and injure themselves. I would give up my seat for the elderly, someone disabled or a pregnant lady and put my young child on my knee to free up a seat.

  • leemelia54

    I'm a 38 year old male. I don't expect a child to give me there away because it's first come first serve. They have paid for the use of that seat. OAP or disabled or pregnant is a different matter.

  • leemelia54

    I'm a 38 year old male. I don't expect a child to give me there seat  because it's first come first serve. They have paid for the use of that seat. OAP or disabled or pregnant is a different matter.

  • Kat H.

    Definitely my child would - my child can sit on my lap Im old school respect costs nothing

  • Jaime Y.

    My 4 year old gave up her seat for a pregnant lady the other day when I asked her to and of course she should. I'm with her so I'll make sure she is safe and holding on tight so will come to no harm. It's equally about respect and I am teaching my daughter that she should think of others needs as well as her own.

  • Jennifer M.

    Depending on the age of the child, yes I would expect my children to stand for someone in more need of a seat, as I would myself.

  • Naomi S.

    I'd sit my child on my lap if a bus etc was full. Once they're too big and heavy I won't. I'd give up my own seat for elderly etc, not my child's.

  • Rachelle L.

    My 9 yr old daughter has invisible disabilities where her joints are unstable and she is hurting. I tell her to stay put!! I will happily.move but no one would consider moving for her. And her 5yr old brother is heading the same way joint wise.

    • Debbie D.

      Exactly the same problem with my daughter causes her pain to walk distance and her balance isn't great but I would happily move so she can remain seated and some who needed the seat got it xx

    • Rachelle L.

      Def. I'm happy to move! Then again id prob have 5 yr old on my knee heh

    • Francesca B.

      I always think it's safer for the kids to be seated and I'll happily offer my seat for an elderly person/disabled/pregnany/poorly or a child. A lot of illnesses are invisible and a lot of people are very judgey!! xx

    • Deb E.

      I'd happily move if you asked a child to have a seat I have two young children and people won't stand to make sure they are seated and safe on the journey

    • Lynsay H.

      Exactly the same my 10 year old is autistic epileptic and has hyper mobility (all invisible) he would stay put I would move

    • Kirsty A.

      My daughter also has an invisible illness. She is much safer sitting. I don't let her move but I will

  • Sharon T.

    Yes I think so, I was made to do it as a child, I was always told to respect my elders! I always hold doors open for people as well.

  • Jodie H.

    Depends in what age you class as an adult am not about to get my 5 year old to stand for someone in the early 20s but for someone in the 50s 60s I would x

  • Shaz X.

    Ppl are so selfish, I was heavily pregnant and having to take long train journeys last year to a specialist hospital, most of the time I got on and all the seats were taken....not once did one person ever offer me there seat, you could see I was obviously pregnant!!! People disgust me...one day I actually managed to find a seat, I was in a lot of pain and almost nine months gone......at the next stop this dear old lady who must of been 90ish got on, could barely walk......and not one bloody person offered her a seat!!!!! So me n her took turns on my seat for the next hour.......where has any common decency gone? Or empathy?... My kids would always give up a seat to an elderly or pregnant person...and rightly so......same as they will hold a door for someone and when they walk thru without even a thank you I point out that's on them if there rude and ungrateful.....

    • Kristina B.

      People are so rude! :rage: It's usually the ones who genuinely need the seats who are the most selfless ones too

    • Lisa C.

      That's terrible. So rude of people.

    • Shaz X.

      They were mainly men in suits sat with laptops with there heads down, but could See Me and the lady struggling.....i was quite verbal when I told her daughter who was with her that I was in disbelief no one had offered her mom a seat......she was so frail, I was in a lot of pain at the time but there was no way I could of sat and watched her struggle......it really is a sad state now :(

    • Jaime Y.

      I get angry and then remind myself that most people are so oblivious as they're reading a paper or looking at their phone (not all people!). When I'm pregnant and no one offers me their seat I ask for one. They'd have to be pretty bold to say no

  • Hayley L.

    A adult has been standing up decades yet expects a child to stand and risk falling ? Elderly fair enough in most cases but some walk better than me (disabled but I don't look it) with 6 bags off shopping yet I can barely walk but I must move ?

  • Deirdre K.

    Teenagers yes but under that no ...if it's an offence to let then go in a car with out a booster or seat belt then why would it be OK for them to stand on public transport on a stop start system.

    • Ruth S.

      Able bodied adult are also able to steady themselves better than children and are in less risk of whacking their face of the metal bars around the bus

    • Rhonda E.

      Exactly. My son wouldn't be able to stand up steadily on public transport he would be all over the place. People seem to forget that children aren't as able as adults x

  • Vicky N.

    If you've paid for a seat for them then they're entitled to their seat. If someone who was elderly, pregnant, disabled needed the seat more than my child, then my child could sit on my knee, but I wouldn't make my child stand so that an able adult could sit. Safety wise, it is safer for the adult to stand than my child. Many adults wouldn't even give their seat to someone who clearly needed it more than them, so why do we assume that a child should give their seat to every adult regardless? It requires common sense from the parent depending on the situation. I am all for teaching respect and manners, but why teach our children that all adults are more worthy than they are? What about equality in that we have all paid for our seats?

    • Jean R.

      I was told that we pay for the ride not the seat

    • Vicky N.

      that theory too should apply to adults then

  • Linzi E.

    Only those requiring a seat (pregnant elderly etc - although I'm more likely to stand) I wouldn't have my child bumped and squashed on public transport - the question I wonder is should an adult stand up to give a child their seat?

  • Kirsty H.

    I would say no! Often on buses even standing up to get off is like a mind zone at being thrown forward round bends or stops! My children would give up there seats without a thought and they will both sit on my knee and my youngest with their dad to take up less seats. This then just gives me the fear maybe selfish but with three kids under 8, if I'm by myself I can only catch 2! Xx

  • Michelle M.

    If a child's seat has been paid for then certainly not!

  • Deb E.

    If they are under a certain age like 10 then no for there own safety but older kids as teens should at least for elderly pregnant people and disabled just out of common curtesy

  • Donna C.

    No we're all equal. If someone needed a seat for a reason such as disability, elderly or pregnant they should offer but why should they give their seat up for a adult because they are a child?

    • Laura W.

      I don't think children are equal to adults at all. I'm not saying they are second class citizens but they have youth and energy and should respect their elders- even though I'm an adult I still respect people older than me and would offer my seat. I don't think that means I'm not equal to people older than me though!

    • Laura W.

      Also I find most adults always say 'no it's ok' so the times we offer and people take us up on the offer I assume they need it for any reason, they don't have to explain themselves!

    • Jaime Y.

      In Australia children are ordered to stand by the bus driver if they haven't already jumped up to do so themselves.

    • Shona S.

      I wouldn't make my children stand up either I would give up my seat of needed for elderly, disability or again a pregnant lady I paid there bus fair so no I wouldn't make them stand

    • Nelly O.

      Ridiculous and selfish. I would never expect a child to offer me their seat. Here in New York whenever my children and I get on public transport adults ALWAYS get up even when I ask them not to. People who think children should get up are the same that will be miserable grumpy seniors!

    • Jess D.

      Im 26 i wouldnt expect a young child to stand up for me just because I'd been at work all day. If there's plenty of fit and able adults on a bus and a pregnant/elderly/disabled person got on I would expect them to offer first.

    • Hann B.

      How can people.ashume adult day is harder than a child thats a very selfish comment! Ignorent or what

  • Chloe M.

    Why should they? Children are people too.

  • Bobbiejo L.

    Depends. Grumpy old Gits round here that stamp sticks and say " move " fuck off mate- my kid is sitting on that seat! Ones that don't ask them yes I'd happily move one of my kids to my lap x

  • Kim W.

    Yes I absolutely think they should- it teaches children respect for their elders, selflessness and to be considerate to others- very important lessons! I was so proud to see my nine year old offer her seat on a tram recently to a stranger with a buggy- turned out the stranger was fizz from Corrie (not that my daughter knew!).

  • Nicki M.

    After being made to stand with a 17 month old and a new born I won't give my seat up anymore. They saw me struggling and no one offered. All I needed was one seat but no, so from then on I will only now offer it to someone really in need

  • Lisa P.

    If I've paid for the seat then no.

  • Teresa-Anne K.

    Yes if children are taught this then they are more likely to do it as an adult. Manners.

  • Angela H.

    Yes. Unless they are disabled, definitely.

  • Pam R.

    Whenever we used public transport I used to put my son on my lap for others to sit, however I wouldn't expect my nine year old to give it up now, unless the person in question was disabled, senior or pregnant, I'd sooner give up my own seat first however.

  • Sharon T.

    How about the railways put on enough carriages so that everyone can get a seat?! That's the real issue here! Fares are extortionate and it's not unreasonable to expect to be able to sit down! :grin:

  • Elle C.

    No kids are more unstable of their feet than most adults. I would give up my seat for a little one

  • Fiona T.

    I would say yes! My LB is 5 n will offer his seat to an older person

  • Clare-Louise L.

    I don't think a young child should no. I would give up my seat for anyone in need but I wouldn't expect my little ones to stand over an abled bodied adult. I would however put her on my knee if needed. When we were in florida adults always gave up seats to anyone in need including small children without asking. It is just the done thing. My little girl (4) has moved up so another little girl could share her seat and I have sat with her and my little boy (8mth) both on my knee so that someone could have her seat but I would never expect either of them to just give up a seat.

  • Lizzi G.

    I do if the seat is taken up by my 4 year old who doesn't pay on the bus and there are no seats for that person to sit. He will happily move and sit on my knee. If there was an eldery/visable disabled or pregnant person got on then I'd give my seat up or if my other 2 children were with me then I would ask them to stand to give them there seat but if someone didn't need the seat I wouldn't ask my children to move.... at the end of the day they have paid to get on the bus and sit down like everyone else!

  • Debbie C.

    Yes weather paid or not its called respect and it always happened when i was a child put some parents today dont teach respect

  • Leanne C.

    I got a train with my five year old and 5 month old in her pram last week I had to stay near the door as the pram was too big and the first three rows of seats were full so my five year old sat on the fourth row down. A man did ask if she wanted to sit on the first row right next to where I was standing but I told him not to worry. I was surprised he even offered though as I rarely get anyone who would offer a seat or swap seats etc. An example of one time last year we were on an extremely busy train home myself and my then 4 year old I was heavily pregnant and was very noticeable I had quite a few bags plus my four year old and not one person offered their seat. We were stuck in the corridor of the train with people pushing past my huge belly as they got off :angry::angry::angry: When we went on holiday my three year old was sat on a chair on the bus. I had already given up my seat for an elderly lady A man got on and told my daughter to get up so he could sit down funny thing is that the priority seats were available but he wanted to sit in my daughters seat. I told her not to move. We had suitcases and I couldn't also hold her. She would have fallen over straight away She got abit upset as this man wasn't just asking he "told her" I told him no and that she was staying put!! If looks could kill that day then we definitely would have been gone ! :joy: i do offer my seat to an elderly person or pregnant woman if there are no seats available but really annoys me when some expect to take your seat because they are of age!! :angry:

  • Shell S.

    I say yes. Of course they should.

    • Shell S.

      How nasty Your probably one of the ones that wouldent give up a seat for disabled person or a elderly. Person Hope when ur older u don't have same issue

  • Clare M.

    A woman moaned at me once because my son had the seat next to me travelling from Edinburgh to Glenrothes he was about 6 at the time she was told quite simply that he's on the seat and he's not moving he stood in line with everyone else. Not happy then im afraid its tough- get to the bus stop a bit earlier to secure your seat. (She wasn't an elderly lady either maybe 45-50)

  • Jenna P.

    I'd just move my kids to my lap probably or sqidge them up a bit! I don't think it's a case of should or shouldn't, more just everyone being more considerate and keen to help others.

    • Jenna P.

      I have an invisible illness and these days I am more aware that I don't know the full story just by looking at someone

  • Michelle A.

    No.. children as in little kids. No.. teenagers.. yes.

  • Samantha J.

    I don't think so on all occasions. Many adults are able to stand more safely than kids . I usually offer my seat to anyone that seems unsteady on there feet

  • Kelly W.

    yes of course. It's just polite to. Some adults have given their seat up so my kids could sit down when they were younger and I expect my kids to be polite enough to offer a seat to someone who needs it

  • Victoria S.

    No. Either my child would sit on my knee or I would stand up. No chance I'd let my child stand up and risk falling and getting hurt. Teenagers yeah but not under that age

  • Claire A.

    I always get my kids to give up the seats for elderly, pregnant ladies or people with difficulties apart from that then they stay put. (Have been unable to get on a bus before myself with my pushchair as teenagers were sitting in the area where the buggy goes and didn't move, waited on the next bus which wasn't the best with a baby in tow :confused:.)

  • George K.

    What if the child is disabled. I worked on the trains and if the child is 5 and over,they have the right to be seated as the adult has paid a ticket for them. In airline's at the age of 2 they have bought a seat. On the bus if a child ticket has been bought they have a right for a seat. Rest my case.

  • Leanne G.

    I dont make my kids give up their seats one has epilepsy and it would be dangerous for him to stand he could have a seizure and hit his head and the other also disabilities and would not manage standing on the bus. So I will happily give up my seat but not theirs

  • Allison C.

    Depending on age of child and hidden disabilities. My son has balance problems when standing up for long periods plus additional needs.

  • Laura S.

    If the bus was running out of seats I'd move my child onto my lap regardless of whether the person without a seat was old, disabled or perfectly able. It's common decency I reckon. I wouldn't expect my daughter to stand because it's dangerous for kids but I'd happily stand if I was on my own and someone needed the seat more than I did.

  • Kimberley R.

    What annoys me is that me and my friend who are both heavily pregnant took an hour long train journey with my 5 year old son and her 1 year old daughter and we had to stand the entire way. People had luggage and bags in seats next to them. When I asked if they could possibly move their bags so we could sit they said no because they didn't want to leave their bags unattended. That's ok then. Me and my friend both heavily pregnant got flung about the train. Thank goodness I drive, just that day we took the train as there was major traffic congestion on the motorway and I had an important appointment.

    • Emma C.

      You paid for a seat, their bags didn't!

    • Kimberley R.

      I would have done but I didn't want anything to kick off esp being pregnant and infront of my 5 year old. Some people are unpredictable so could have started lashing out had I touched their things. I was trying to find the ticket man or another member of staff (the ones who wheel the food troll about etc) but couldn't find one. The train was very very long lol.

    • Susan C.

      I'd have just moved their bags. I've done that before without being pregnant. The seats are for bottoms, not bags. We're lucky that the conductors on our trains will insist people move their bags if they're in seats and people are standing.

    • Hannah C.

      Similar thing happened to me at 7 months pregnant - 1 empty seat in the carriage so I sat in it - a bloke came along and said it was his seat as he had left his paper there and got quite argumentative about it. So I stood up and made a big thing about being pregnant but told him exactly what I thought of him and insisted he have his seat back.

    • Gail P.

      I was on a train the other day (33weeks pregnant) with my 3 yr old.... Stood the whole way.... Whilst a dog sat on a seat nearby and people had luggage. I didn't ask for a seat and I'd probably refuse or sit my son down as he struggled to hold on due to the height of the bars but it's courtesy to at least ask or acknowledge someone else

    • Sabiha N.

      It happened to me once (not pregnant). I asked to see the bag's ticket before threatening to get the guard in them. She soon moved her precious bag.

  • Karina G.

    Is this even a question?Since when we are asking questions about simple manners?

  • Lynsey F.

    Think adults should get up and offer their seats to pregnant ladies or older people, not children giving up seats

  • Andy W.

    Its not so much kids as adults who use disabled seats when they are not and wont get up evden though the bus ie empty

  • Shelley M.

    Not a young child if someone asked me other than a elderly lady or pregnant lady i would say no

  • Lori M.

    No as I have paid for my child to have a seat and I alway make sure we never sit in seats marked elderly/disabled.

  • Saralouise B.

    I was always taught to give up my seat for adults but as a parent I don't think it's safe for a small child to stand in the isle. And adult is stronger and can hold on when the bus moves and jerks around and in the event of a crash I'm sure are less likely to come to serious harm than a child. I would give up my seat for someone infirm, elderly, pregnant etc in place of my children.

  • Alice B.

    Id rather myself stand and leave my 7 year old daughter sitting where she is safe.

  • Jasmine S.

    Why should kids give up seats for adults?

  • Lauren A.

    Round my area kids are not allowed to stand on buses

  • Lori M.

    If I've paid for my child's seat then no as they're entitled to their seat like everyone else, I asked my child once to give up their seat and my child fell and that person did not even bat an eyelid.

  • Laura W.

    I think as soon as they are old enough to be safe then yes! Of course. Or if I feel my child is so much more entitled than others- they can have my seat and I'll stand! But I often say to my children... you've got young legs, stand up for the adults!

  • Clare R.

    Have mixed feelings on this, dont believe my child SHOULD have to give up a there seat,on the basis an adult takes priority,obviously pregnant,elderly etc are the exception however while my daughter is taught respect,manners & understanding of others she is also aware that she has a right to the same in return & sadly many adults dont show her that same respect.

  • Vicki W.

    My child would sit on my lap to make space for anyone - just courteous/ good manners

  • Samantha C.

    I think if the kids are clearly older than that's ok- but I have often moved so young children can sit down! I think the question you should be asked is why there is so much transport out there that cannot carry the load it's supposed to? Why have we got single decker buses on routes where double deckers could go? What happened to double decker buses? Why are there trains so full to bursting? When the train companies are making millions out of our discomfort? There are other alternatives! But the bus and TOCs do not want to know! Just want to keep their profits. I have arthritis, diabetes, asthma, etc and I would still give up my seat for anyone who I felt needed it. Man/ woman/ child it wouldn't matter! But I also feel that people shouldn't be judged for not giving up seats- as some disabilities you cannot see!

  • Natalie K.

    My oldest son does but my others not yet as they can't hold on as they r 2 young. After also been pregnant n be made 2 stand. N also holding my newborn feeding her nope it works both way

  • Susan C.

    My 13 year old is told if, and only if, someone else makes it known (or it is obvious) they have more need than her to sit. I want to raise her to be helpful to those who need it but not subservient to those who just demand it so I'll not make her stand just because someone else wants a seat. My 11 year old is told to move further back if someone needs a front seat but is never made to stand as she has diagnosed coordination difficulties and standing can be more dangerous for her. My two year old rides strapped in her buggy on the designated buggy space. If a disabled vehicle user boards, the buggy is folded and she travels on my lap.

  • Charlie W.

    No. Safer for most adults to stand. I've always offered up my seat for a little one if anything.

  • Emmanuell A.

    Nope! Especially once the have a paid ticket

  • Danielle S.

    The kids shouldn't have to the adults their with should sit them on their knee providing they don't have a baby to hold :slight_smile: it's just good manners

  • Paula J.

    No I wouldn't expect my children to give up their seat and stand it wouldn't b safe besides people are so rude most of the time,we couldn't get on the bus to go home as a pensioner with a shopping trolley refused to move from the wheelchair/pram seat even tho they weren't disabled,I had to wait for over an hour for the next bus with a baby in pram,3year old and a 5year old!!!x

  • Chantelle H.

    Absolutely! What we teach our children is what they will teach theirs.

  • Penny F.

    Depends on the age of the child. At 2.5 years my child doesn't yet have good enough balance but as soon as he does then he will be standing

  • Andrea N.

    I must admit that I grudge giving my seat up as when I was pregnant no-one gave up their seat up for me. I pay for my daughters seat (she is 8, my son is 2) so I feel she has every right to sit there. If there is only one seat I give it to my kids and I stand. If people have bags on the seats I ask them to move them and if they say no I say in a loud voice did you pay bus/train fare for your bag. So many people in Scotland dont pay for travel now as they have concession cards any way.

  • Gemma B.

    I would offer my seat instead of my son. My son has cerebral palsy so struggles to sit up properly as it is.. and he defo can't stand unaided. But I would happily put my son's pushchair down so long as he can sit on a chair xxx

  • Marlene W.

    To O.A.P's ,or pregnant ladies.. yes.it shows respectful for others..

  • Danielle M.

    If someone pregnant, elderly or disabled I'd move my daughter but otherwise no, would they offer her their seat?

  • Tracey H.

    When i travel on the train and tubes I have had adults give up their seat for my children more often than not either if i have said they are fine to stand but tbe bus is a different story i have had people moaning about not having a seat but the way the bus stops and starts i don't like them standing up only being 4 and 7

  • Vikki B.

    I don't often use public service, last time I did my son wasn't overly keen. He's still of an age where he doesn't pay for a ticket.. so in this case if he's sat I'd move him onto my knee/lap. I wouldn't however give up my seat if my boy was sat on lap already! I feel it would be safer him traveling sat down. We can all lead by example, I've offered my seat many times and been both accepted and refused to move. My personal opinion is if someone asks a child to move kindly, and they are of an age where standing is safe then I see no issue, if not then as an adult I would move. However it shouldn't be a right of way.

  • Emma-louise D.

    No unless it's for someone who actually needed it ie infirm, disabled etc. Xx

  • Debbie S.

    When I used to get the bus when I was little I remember having to give up my seat for an adult. I didn't stand though I simply sat on my mums knee. I did the same for my children when they were little and now as teenagers they have given up there seats for the elderly or pregnant women. My 15 year old once moved for a man who was on crutches. If you teach them when they are young to be kind and respectful then they will be the first to offer there seats to those who need it.

  • Jenny B.

    I like the way they put their bag on the seat and give you a look when you say escuse me when you want to sit down !

  • JoJo-72
    1. You teach a child manners and respect by showing them not telling them. We always offer our seats if needed but respect works both ways and some adults are nasty rude f_**ers and think world owes them a living
  • Teri B.

    Maybe public transport should provide enough seats for all paying passengers (it's expensive enough) then this wouldn't even be an issue!

  • Karen P.

    I was always told to respect my elders. I would never remain in my seat at watch an elderly person stand! I would also be proud of my children if they had manners and respect to do the same, I hope I have taught them that at least! Plus a child can sit on their parents knee so it's no hardship! However if my child was unable to sit on my knee I would not expect them to stand for an able bodied adult nor would I remain in my seat and expect them to give up theirs. We need to teach by example in the hope our babies grow into caring considerate adults

  • Suzanne J.

    I always give up my seat for elderly even when I was 9 months pregnant I gave up my seat and it's something I push my kids to do also

  • Kel W.

    i always make sure my eldest sits on my lap when i know another person may need it

  • Leah A.

    Their poor little legs :pensive:

  • Em E.

    I would put my lo on my lap if someone elderly/disabled/pregnant needed a seat or give up mine but not just for a random adult. In fact I have given up my seat a few times for a child as dont think its nice for them to have to stand.

  • Hannah G.

    I say no. If some one can get up dressed out there house on to a bus and spend a day out doing whatever they can stand up on the bus or go to the back. My child can sit where they want i say!!:blush:

  • Ian B.

    It's a pyramid system. 18-40 sit down last. Every year you move away from that you become more entitled to a seat. Females sit before males unless they decline the offer.

    Only exceptions are medical.

  • Jessica B.

    I would give up my seat for elderly, disabled or a child it's only a seat it doesn't really bother me

    • Jessica B.

      And some one who's pregnant

  • Janet H.

    Depends on their age, but we were always asked to do so to grown ups, especially the elderly, infirm , pregnant , or ladies in high heels( sympathy from my mum)

  • Tania M.

    No. If they were pregnant or elderly then my children would sit on my lap, why should they stand.

  • Andrew S.

    No not if they have a ticket.

  • Angela M.

    i would never make my child give up her seat. that is why i am glad i drive and dont use public transport. why should i compromise my daughters safety over someone elses.

  • Penny H.

    No adults are much more capable of sitting that young children. Elderly or pregnant or disabled yes but not a healthy adult.

  • Sally H.

    Me thinks most definitely a yes... it's what you call respect and manners..... my mum always made us as kids give are seats on a bus or train to adults... :thumbsup:

  • Lyndsey C.

    I think it all depends how old the child is if you are talking about an older child or teen then yes they could give a seat for elderly/pregnant/disabled etc. If your talking about a young child I believe it's not safe if the bus hadto emergency stop suddenly a little child may not be strong enough to hold on properly and end up flying down the bus. If the child is small enough they could sit on parents lap freeing up a seat. Ultimately I think it's all down to personal circumstances, most caring thoughtful people would give up their seats for those in need for it. If the adult is physically able and well with no contributing health issues then I don't think it's a problem for them to stand.

  • Kirsty B.

    No and the amount of rows I've had over mine staying in seats is ridiculous. Both of mine have hidden disabilities and 9/10 it's older generations who act entitled due to aging. Age is not a disability. I will and have scootched one over onto my knee but I won't move them to put them in harms way. Ps I too have drug resistant Epilepsy so need to sit

  • Shirley S.

    As someone with a walking disability and uses a stick, I would never take a seat from a child on public transport, it's worrying enough that they often cannot be safely restrained in the seat, without expecting them to stand. Having said that I don't expect anyone to give up their seat for me but I'm grateful if someone kindly offers.

  • Gemma H.

    No, unless there's a pregnant, elderly or disabled person.

  • Trudy W.

    If before 5 yrs old they are free and should give up their seats, we do that. 5 years old onwards however, you pay for a child ticket and therefore a seat and they should be able to keep their seat unless someone with greater need i.e pregnant or elderly needs it more!

  • Mark S.

    Is the safety of a child less important then that of an adult?

  • Abigail B.

    Disable elderly or pregnant yes coz I wud but if I've gotta pay for my kid then he's entitled to his seat just like everyone else

  • Emmot M.

    Only for the older and ill ones.

  • Samantha M.

    Thing is though just because someone looks healthy does not mean they are they could have cancer or what ever

  • Carol W.

    No. The way some bus drivers drive I wouldn't want my kids standing up at all. There should be enough seats for the elderly and disabled people at the front of the bus and other people should respect that those seats are for that purpose and leave them free.

  • Lorraine B.

    I will sit my son how is 4 on to my lap so some one can sit down if they need to . but I don't make my daughter move I have paid for her to be on the bus and its not safe for her to stand if the bus bakes hard she might full . I think teenagers could give up their seats but not be made to I have had a few lads move so I chouol sit down

  • Deborah W.

    Yes, i was recently on an airport bus (from terminal to plane) carrying a 1yr old and 2 bags and there was a couple with 2 kids around 3 and 6 and they took up 4 seats while i was standing struggling to keep my balance with my child and bags. Those kids could easily have sat on their parents lap which is what i would have done! People seriously lack manners and are selfish these days!.

  • Donna T.

    I'd never make my children give up their seat unless it was for a pregnant lady or someone elderly or disabled and that would only be after giving up my own seat. Any other adults can stand up!

  • Tara L.

    Erm... no!!

    Adults should give their seats up first! But only to disabled/elderly/pregnant people.

    Child are more likely to fall than adults.

  • Dawn C.

    Unless it's a disabled person, elderly or pregnant, no one should have to give up a seat for anyone regardless whether it's a child or adult. I'd say a child is best sat in a seat as they're less likely to fall or get squashed because people can't see them.

  • Debbie D.

    My daughter is 10 and when we travel on public transport she sits on my lap if a seat is needed. Things are different in other countries. We were in Moscow when she was about 7 and went on the metro, no seats, someone got up and gestured for us to take a seat, I sat down and put my daughter on my lap, tuts and someone else got up and insisted that she got a seat to herself. We worked out this was the way and from the on this always happened.

  • Gemma H.

    If its somewhere like a waiting room then yes id tell them to stand up for abit or put them on my knee but for a long period of time like a train ride then no they need a seat too x

  • Jane B.

    Don't know if it still applies but as a child the conditions of carriage were clearly displayed on the buses I used. 'Children travelling at half fare should not occupy a seat when full paying adults are standing' or something like that. Those too young to stand safely can sit on their caregivers laps. I was brought up that way as were my children. I now expect my grandchildren to give up their seats, which they do without question. I have even been in the position to stand myself and allow another passenger to carry my young charge on their lap so someone in greater need could use a seat.

  • Michel C.

    The aged or a pregnant women,or disabled if they gave a safe place to be like on a parents lap

  • Kelly M.

    I think it just depends... on the age of the child.. if a toddler was able to sit on my knee but it might not be safe to do that..

  • Hann B.

    Shame on those who think a child should move

  • Hayley C.

    I think teens should maybe offer to the elderly but no way should a child give up there seat to anyone it would be unsafe for them to stand

  • Laura C.

    Depends on age, children sometimes need to sit as much as older adults I.e. Being tired or being unsafe to stand. Our children see us offering our seats so would still learn good manners.

  • Celeste D.

    Yes they should, it's just manners. My kids always offer their seats to people older than them wherever we are.

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