Push Presents: Yes or No?

Push Presents: Yes or No?
16 October 2017

New mum Serena Williams caused something of a stir on social media this week when she took to Instagram to share a snap of her with her beautiful baby daughter – and kicked off a debate about push presents in the process.

Metro reports:

She captioned the picture: ‘Ladies is a “push present” a thing? If so what did you get if anything? #conversationstarter.’

A push present, as the paper helpfully explains, is a gift "given to a woman shortly after she has given birth, typically by her spouse or partner" – apparently, it's "basically a ‘thanks for pushing our baby out’ peace offering".

The comments beneath Serena's post were predictably divided, with one commenter writing: 'I got a perfectly healthy son' while another wrote 'Yes, it is a thing nowadays and you get diamonds!'

This probably won't make me popular but I'm not a fan of the push present, speaking personally. I've had three babies and I didn't get (never mind ask for) a push present for any of them – to me, it would have felt crass to do so.

I didn't need an incentive, other than my baby, for giving birth and I didn't feel like I needed a reward or any sort of peace offering after my baby's delivery. Having a baby is just not an 'event' that I felt needed to be marked with something that could be bought and paid for.

And why should mums be the only ones to get push presents? By the same token, aren't dads deserving of gifts in recognition for the part they play in the whole procreation process?!

That said, I'm totally cool with people who are fans of push presents. It's not right for me but that doesn't mean I won't dig your diamonds if that's how you opted to mark the occasion of your baby's birth – I'll compliment you on your bling like the best of 'em.

But, to answer Serena's question, I'm going to go with 'Yes, push presents are a thing, but don't feel pressured into going down that route if it's not your thing.' It ain't mine.

We'd love to hear your thoughts on this story. How do you feel about push presents? Were you the lucky recipient of a push present after delivering your baby? If so, what did you get, and how much say did you have in what the gift was? Leave us a comment here or come and join the conversation over on our Facebook page.

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71 comments

  • Jamie H.

    it's a must. Diamonds tend to follow :grin::grin:

  • Charlene H.

    I hope you have s in xcx

  • Lauren S.

    Is the baby not the present :joy:

    • Jamie H.

      Oh yes but tradition is you get your eternity ring, not so much push but addition to your rings:grin:

    • Lauren S.

      :open_mouth: seems I missed a trick there :weary::joy:

  • Charlotte S.

    I don't remember 2 mini humans coming out of you?

  • Joanne T.

    I thought it was traditional to get an eternity ring after your first child.

  • Kelly M.

    u seen this a push present :joy::gift: number 6 il give u a list haahaha :joy::joy::joy: x

  • Rachael M.

    apparently some people get diamonds :ring::gem::joy:

  • Stacie L.

    what's on your list :wink:

    • Mollyrose L.

      I reckon a pandora charm.. what you thinking :thinking: x

    • Stacie L.

      i think he can stretch more than that sweet heart :yum:

  • Beth P.

    I’m owed an eternity ring :ring:

  • Hayley W.

    read this. Seems people are getting diamonds for a push present. Why did I only get a costa coffee?!!!

    • Hayley W.

      It's a present when you have had a baby! I have said this so many times to you. Most people get jewellery etc..... I got a costa coffee!

    • Hayley W.

      Haha I thought after the first time and all my hints it might rub off ready for the second one.... hahaha It didn't!

  • Kim G.

    just giving u a heads up, 4 months to think off something lol xxx

  • Leanne F.

    Yes I got my eternity ring x

  • Jen W.

    I got multiple "push presents". A cuppa and a sandwich whilst I was feeding. An extra hour in bed while hubby took the baby for a walk. A "well done, you're doing great even though you're knackered"... #nodiamodsrequired

    • Kirstine G.

      More helpful than any diamond ! my hubby was great &still is with the kids all the gift I need x

  • Victoria B.

    My push presents were my two healthy babies ... and the best toast and marmalade ever!! X

    • Claire B.

      Ive never had a more delicious cuppa tea and toast than the one i did after having my first baby! :smiley:

    • Anna S.

      Why is it that the toast you have after giving birth is literally the best you’ve ever had.....! X

    • Heidi G.

      Ooh I loved the toast after my second! I had a sarnie after my first and whole tooth fell out :thinking:

  • Claire T.

    Never heard the term ‘push present’ but traditionally you got an eternity ring after birth of firstborn to go with engagement & wedding ring (because obviously back then you would always be married first lol) :smirk: so I’m guessing this is the contemporary equivalent....4 babies on & I never received anything...other than my beautiful children of course xx

  • Hannah H.

    My babies being here, happy and healthy we’re all the push presents I needed x

  • Grace A.

    My hubby got me a beautiful locket when my oldest son was born.

  • Azza J.

    Another money making fad.. I’ve pushed out 4 babies.. Didn’t get any diamonds.. What I appreciated most especially with my boys Dad was him doing all the night feeds..Yes, all of them with both our sons without asking. He would often take our sons down stairs and let me have the whole bed and a lie in most days and he looked after my daughters... I’d rather have that then anything else in the world.

    • Dominique J.

      Not a fad. Used to be when the eternity ring was given on the birth of the first born child.

    • Hannah T.

      Hardly a fad if eternity rings were given for the same reason. Exactly the same thing, they've just given it a new name!

    • Azza J.

      I understand but I still think it’s a fad that some big companies will enjoy picking up on. That’s the main objective to this post. Instead of it being personal via families giving eternity ring or what ever..Down the line we will see web pages designed for these push gifts..They will have sections in Mother care etc..That’s where the my main gripe is aimed at. I couldn’t think of another word but fad. It’s similar to the wedding cake. The top tier was kept and fed then used for the couples babys christening cake. Same with the wedding dress. That was used to make a Christening gown until the big companies took over...

    • Hannah T.

      I don't think it's all to do with big companies taking over. A huge amount of couples have children without being married so these older traditions like the top tier of the cake and the dress are completely irrelevant. Big companies will obviously use it to sell things but I think it's caused by changes in society rather than companies.

  • Paula E.

    Most I got was a lift home from the hospital!:see_no_evil::joy:

  • Kelly C.

    Tea& toast best push presents after birth while baby having cuddles with daddy, perfect

  • Lorraine C.

    Just asked... and I'm not getting one!!! :joy::joy:

  • Lara C.

    My husband didn't get me anything but my parents had bought me a locket which they gave me when they visited. I love that necklace as it's so thoughtful from them and special to me.

  • Alison H.

    After having our first child by Caesarian I got a sodding push bike! Completely offended and totally useless :joy:

  • Joanne E.

    I think I will especially for a diamond :gem::joy::speak_no_evil::baby::two_hearts: xx

  • Stacey T.

    I hadn't heard of it before but my husband did buy me a present after our 1st, didn't with my 2nd though :unamused:

  • Lauren M.

    Think the name is a little daft and I got a charm for my bracelet of my Mum and Dad, didn’t expect anything nor I ever will!!

  • Amy G.

    I’ll keep dreaming :weary::sob: #notHappening

  • Anthony M.

    Away ye go man :joy::joy::joy: am skint

  • Allison W.

    I always thought it was an eternity ring following the birth of your first child?

  • Lucy G.

    My husband said he would buy me a new bike....... just what you want ........ a really comfy mountain bike seat to ease your soreness and where to put the newborn?? maybe in the basket????

    Flowers would have done!!!

  • Joanne S.

    Didn't even get a bunch of flowers

  • Jenna C.

    Haha! Definitely on this :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:

  • izzywoo

    best gift i got were my children....and the best cup of tea of my life. Its a time when human kindness and love are paramount not "what present have you bought me"....

  • Hedina C.

    Nope not one and I had 3 babies lol

  • Carrie N.

    My Husband bought me an eternity ring when I had our little boy. :ring:

  • Kirsty W.

    Yes,I pushed and got my babies!! That was the only present I needed!!!

  • Louise-Pink D.

    I have 3 kids last one was 2 years ago and I never get "push presents". But I'm blessed with 3 children.

  • Sally P.

    I had an eternity ring after we had our daughter to mark us becoming a family.

  • Cat R.

    I got flowers and a pandora charm from my partner of each child I loved it and was a big surprise ! Xx

  • Vicky B.

    You get a baby, that's the present.

  • Laura C.

    Hell yes it's more of a celebration than your birthday or Xmas :grinning:

  • Nicole S.

    Oh yes you have reminded me .... I am still waiting for both of mine

  • Vishal S.

    We will have another beautiful baby boy :boy: lol :joy: what more would you want!!

  • Punita S.

    Now you're spreading rumours!

  • Kerry H.

    Take it you didn’t get one then?! :laughing:

  • Bianca P.

    Any excuse for a present - definitely! Which is why I was shocked you were not straight in the baby shower band wagon! xx

  • Jennifer M.

    Flowers, a balloon and of course the best of all - a beautiful baby :grinning:

    • Charlotte M.

      And nice loungewear from the dad dont forget

  • Kerry H.

    Think I got a new coffee machine

  • Jane S.

    I got a lovely push present for my first but nothing for the second,my family are my gift!

  • John K.

    Sorry got a wedding to pay for x

  • Chelsey T.

    Nope, I asked for an eternity ring but not for a 'push present' but just because it is tradition in my family. I didn't get one :joy: but I got so much more, my husband was and is a wonderful daddy and that means so much more than anything he could ever buy me. I don't get the argument that you've carried and pushed a baby out so you deserve a gift, your gift is your child, Someone could pass me £1000000 but with my new baby in my arms It would be like someone passing me a stick. No material gift can live up to the gift of your new child.

  • Chloe T.

    Thanks for the reminder! :joy:

  • Chloe T.

    You want them for Xmas as a late push present haha

  • Claire F.

    My husband got me a ruby eternity ring when we had our first a wee girl as that's my family's custom. When our son was born he got me a sapphire eternity ring and said he wanted to start his own custom :heart_eyes: very romantic I thought especially as his own idea.

  • Nicola C.

    Your baby is your push present! :rolling_eyes:

  • Alison C.

    Push presents what utter nonsense my hubby got up and made me a hot drink during the night while I was breastfeeding he changed the nappy before part 2 of the feed among many many other wonderful things they are loving caring gestures not push presents

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