Parents Should Avoid Kissing Their Children On The Lips: What's Your View?

21 August 2015

Kissing your child on the lips

If, like me, you're the parent of a toddler who loves to dish out soggy kisses on a regular basis, you'll no doubt be as bemused as I am by the drama raging online and in parenting forums about whether it's ever 'ok' to kiss your child on the lips.

Excuse me, what now? Well, the Independent reports:

A doctor has warned parents against kissing their children on the lips, arguing it is “too sexual”.

Many parents will see it as a simple sign of parental affection, but Dr Charlotte Reznick has warned the mouth is an erogenous zone which “can be stimulating” and subsequently cause confusion for children.

Dr Reznick is author of a book called The Power of Your Child’s Imagination: How to Transform Stress and Anxiety Into Joy and Success and she reportedly gave an interview to The Sun in which she suggested that children might who see their parents kissing one another on the lips might associate kissing with sexual / romantic activity and thus be confused if a parent then engages with them in a similar way.

But not everyone agrees. The Sun reports:

One person who definitely disagrees is clinical psychologist Sally-Anne McCormack. She said: “There’s absolutely no way that kissing a young child on the lips is confusing for them in any way. “That’s like saying breastfeeding is confusing. “Some people might have issues with it, but it isn’t any more sexual than giving a baby a back rub.”

Well said, that woman. Now as the mother of pre-teen sons I am the fist to say that there comes a time when puckering up to plant a smacker on your child's lips isn't the done thing anymore - but your kids will likely indicate when that time has come.

And while I'm certainly no advocate of foisting my kisses on my kids against their will, I'm certainly not about to start proferring my cheek instead of my lips when my sloppy little kisser wants to shower me with sticky-faced affection.

As for the idea that allowing my toddler to kiss me on the lips will somehow 'confuse' her, let's just say that I don't think she's the confused on here.

But what's your view? Do you think it's barmy to suggest that kissing your kids on the lips will confuse them, or are you in agreement with Dr Reznick's warning that parents should avoid kissing their children on the lips?


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TOPICS:   Parents

2 comments

  • Fmy87
    As a teenager I babysat 2-12 year olds and I wouldn't tuck them all in, and not all of them wanted a kiss from me. But the younger ones did and as a teenager myself I thought it was strange to kiss them on the mouth. I don't remember if I ever kissed my parents on the lips and at that point in my life, I never thought I would do it myself, but now that I have my own 3 little evil cuties it's become very normal. I guess it started to show them how to give kisses and kissing them on the cheek just left them in fits of giggles cos it tickled their neck! Now I can see that my 7 year old son might soon stop wanting kisses on the mouth at school drop off and I'm ok with that. But I no longer see it as so weird, although I know how my babysitter feels now when my kids want a night time kiss of her :)
  • Lorirae0310
    Growing up I always gave my mum and dad a kiss, whether it was going to school going out to play and bedtime, Infact at the age of 31 now I still give my mum and dad a kiss before I leave to go home, I now have 2 girls, they give me kisses and cuddles all the time, when they get up, go to school, anytime really, I shower them with cuddles kisses and I love you's all the time, they are 5&11 even the big one will give me a kiss even if her friends are there! I don't see it as anything but showing your kids that u love them!!

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