Co-sleeping - i.e sharing a bed with your baby - is surely one of the most divisive parenting topics of all.
While it's well documented that co-sleeping can increase the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, there are of course also countless mums and dads for whom bed-sharing with their baby is a foundational, formative part of being parent.
And now parenting author Sarah Ockwell-Smith is shining a light on the topic again following a study she commissioned which revealed that 46 per cent of parents who had shared a bed with their newborn hadn't disclosed this to health professionals.
The Mail reports:
"Sarah Ockwell-Smith of the website Gentle Parenting commissioned a study of 600 parents which found that 46 per cent of parents hadn't admitted to sharing a bed with their newborns to a GP, midwife or health visitor about co-sleeping for fear of being judged. The research was commissioned for her new book, Why Your Baby's Sleep Matters which argues that allowing babies to sleep in their parents' bed is in fact better than putting them in a cot and is safe if done the right way."
Ockwell-Smith points out that current guidelines on safe sleep don't state that parents shouldn't share a bed with their baby but rather that they should be given adequate information to enable them to make an informed decision.
This latest study really resonated with me because I did bed-share for a period of time with all three of my babies and I did avoid discussing the issue with my health visitors because I knew they would likely disapprove.
But - and here's my real point - I wasn't an advocate of bed-sharing so much as a new mum taking whatever means necessary in order to get some sleep. I was uncomfortable about sharing a bed with my baby because of the risks but it was a needs must scenario whereby that was the only way either of us could get some sleep, so I went with it. I think that's why I avoided discussing co-sleeping with my health visitors. It wasn't so much that I feared a health professional's disapproval or, as with some of the survey respondents, that I worried that my child might be deemed at risk if I admitted to co-sleeping. It was more that I was taking what felt like a desperate measure to me at the time and thus I didn't have the wherewithal to debate the issue.
We'd like to hear your views on this story. If you co-slept with your child, did you disclose this to your health visitor and if not, why not? Join the debate on our Facebook page or leave us a comment below.
TOPICS: Parenting Tips