This Mother, Terri Evans, has hit the headlines today after a Facebook post she made about her son went viral. She found out that her son had bullied a girl at his school and decided to teach him a lesson by publicly naming and shaming him on Facebook.
Her post, which has since been deleted, read as follows:
"Absolutely disgusted that my 12 year old son saw fit to purposefully tread on a new girls foot at school and twist his foot with such force it broke her brand new shoes (causing the heel) to snap.
I'll tell you something Jacob ( JustPost Rng Photos) if you so much as breath in her or anyone's direction in a bullying manner I will personally hand you over to their parents for every demeaning chore they see fit for as long as they do... kiss goodbye to your birthday money as you will be buying the girl a new pair of shoes and a bunch of flowers! #iwillnothaveabullyinmyhouse"
The post attracted a huge amount of attention, the majority of it praising the no-nonsense approach of her parenting style, with many saying that this was the best way to teach the boy a lesson, though a significant minority disagreed with her and were not afraid to say so. The post was later updated with the following addition:
"Update. To answer a few questions, yes my son can see it, he was tagged in it before it went viral(which I didn't realise was going to happen) so his friends could see that his actions have consequences, he is not big, clever, hard or funny, he's a 12 year old boy answerable to his mam.
I don't much care who doesn't agree with my parenting style, my son humiliated and embarrassed a girl, regardless of his reasoning (which was he didn't expect to break the shoe he just thought she may step out of it or stumble) that little girl still cried, for anyone's knowledge that girl may have left her old school because she was being bullied... then imagine how much worse my son's ridiculous act would have made her feel.
So my so called embarrassing him online is a to be quite frankly nothing in comparison to the humiliation that little girl had to face walking round with a broken shoe and red eyes from crying when she is new.
Ps... of course I sat and spoke to him about his behaviour, I didn't just tag him in a post and he read it! I am wholly confident this was a single occurrence which won't be repeated."
The attention this Facebook post has received says an awful lot about the dilemmas we face as parents today, both in terms of how we deal with disciplining our children, and the way we share information online about them. My opinion on this seems to be in the minority, as I cannot see a time when I would want to humiliate my child in public with a permanent record of their poor behaviour forever blighting their record for all to see. However, my children are still young, so I have not yet had to deal with a situation like this, and I do agree that any form of bullying should be dealt with immediately. But if you have already dealt with the issue at home, as had happened in this case, there is no need to do so publicly as well. However I also think that attacking a parent for their decisions is all too common when so much is shared in public, and most of us are simply trying to do what we think is right. As the post has now been removed, presumably because of the negative part of the publicity surrounding this story, I would imagine that this Mum has not had the best Mother's Day.
What do you think you would do if you were in this situation? By publicly acknowledging her son's bullying this Mum has confronted and put a stop to the behaviour, but would you have dealt with it in a different way? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below or over on our Facebook page.
TOPICS: Parenting Tips