I am fairly confident that I could catch any of my kids in a lie. Are you?
If so, it seems we could both be wrong.
According to new research, most of us overestimate our ability to tell when our children are telling fibs.
The Daily Mail reports:
"The findings may help to explain why some parents seem to be willing to let their children get away with almost anything even in the face of the evidence."
"They say mothers and fathers suffer from a 'truth bias' with their own youngsters but when faced with lies from other people's children, they have less difficulty telling if a statement is true or not."
This makes sense to me in the context of other parents - I can think of times when I've seen other parents believe their child's version of events even when it's glaringly obvious to other onlookers that the version of the truth being offered to them is not, shall we say, the most factual one.
But - and I realise how ironic this is - I find it difficult to accept that I might be blind to when my children stretch the truth. Which of course means that I'll now never quite know what to think when my kids appear to be being less than 100% truthful.
It surely makes sense that we trust our own kids more than we trust other youngsters - biology is a powerful thing, after all - but it's fairly worrying that we're unable to tell when our kids aren't telling the truth.
In my house, we have a pretty simple rule of thumb when it comes to truth-checking a statement by a child. "Look me in the eyes and say that," is all I have to utter when faced with a kid claiming fervently to have brushed his teeth.
"Okaaaaay, I'm sorry, I'll go and do them now," is usually what comes back.
But then I think I'm a stickler for the truth - my kids know that lying will land them in way more trouble than doing something wrong but owning up to it ever could.
So where do you stand on lying? And do y0u think we overestimate our ability to tell when our children aren't telling the truth? Do you have a failsafe way of catching your kid in a lie?
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TOPICS: Parenting Tips