Airing Your Dirty Laundry Online: Just Part Of Modern Life, As Katie Price Says?

16 October 2015

Shaming your cheating partner online

It's pretty commonplace these days to document every tiny detail of our lives online, so it makes sense (sort of) that we share the good, the bad and the ugly via the internet.

But when things get really ugly should you avoid airing your dirty laundry via social media? Or is disclosing every dirty detail of life's downs as well as its ups just part and parcel of life in the digital age? Should you ever shame a cheating partner online?

Kate Price certainly thinks so, and she took up residence on the This Morning sofa earlier today to explain why.

The Daily Mail reports:

The stunning star was appearing on the show as a debate was sparked after Irish TV presenter Donal MacIntyre's wife blasted him for being a ‘lying, cheating scumbag’ on social media when he allegedly had an affair.

Katie went through a similar situation after she discovered Kieran cheated with two of her closest pals - Chrissy Thomas and Jane Pountney - and venomously took to Twitter to out the indiscretions - although they have since reconciled.

During the show, Katie went head-to-head with journalist Alley Einstein, who believes that when children are involved, there should be privacy in regard to any rows among parents. 

Ameera MacIntyre, Donal's wife of nine years and the mother of his three children, reportedly reacted to discovering photographs and text messages from another woman on her husband's phone by lashing out online. She wrote:

"Lying cheating scumbag. How could you ruin this beautiful family??"

The post was quickly deleted, and Donal has reportedly denied that he is having an affair, according to the papers.

So, should you air your dirty laundry online, or are relationship lows best dealt with behind closed doors? Celebs live life by different rules to the rest of us so I can understand Pricey's point - the whole concept of a personal life surely takes on an entirely different context when you're in the public eye, especially if your income revolves around courting publicity - but I still reckon it's wisest to keep your dark days offline.

Aside from the fact that a dignified silence is rarely regretted - which can't be said for a very public emotive outburst - I'm also of the opinion that privacy is a seriously under-rated value, and that keeping certain aspects of our personal lives under wraps is pretty much essential for one's own well-being - no matter how tempting it might be to disclose the details of a breach of trust online.

I couldn't stand having to live my life under the glare of the media spotlight, and when things are difficult in life I crave a bit of solitude and space - not the scrutiny of innumerate strangers sharing in all the gory details.

I completely understand the compulsion to lash out online if your trust has been betrayed - it's natural to want to even the score in that situation, and the immediacy of social media can make it feel almost therapeutic to do so online. But when a relationship goes awry I think it's vital to remember that what you say or do online today can have repercussions for years to come. You might be able to delete a Facebook post or deactivate a Twitter account, but you can't make people un-see what you share online.

What if, in weeks or months or even years to come, you want to be able to put the past behind you? It's undeniably harder to do so if your virtual world knows all the gory details of that relational bump in the road that you're now trying to move on from.

Some things are just best kept off social media, which is why I'm a firm believer in stepping well away from the 'Publish' button whenever life gets messy. And if you're reading this in the midst of a messy moment in your personal life and are wondering how best to react, let me end with this.

Before you tweet or dish the dirt online, try asking yourself how you'd feel if your child, in years to come, were to read what you're considering sharing on social media. If even the smallest part of your instinct suggests that you might regret dealing with a private matter in the very public sphere of social media, I'm going to urge you to walk away from the online world right now.

Some moments in life call for walking away from virtual reality altogether and picking up the phone instead to call on the support of your 'real' friends.

TOPICS:   Parenting Tips

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