Some of my very best memories in life are of the days immediately following the births of my babies when my house was abuzz with visitors and relatives all desperate to indulge in newborn cuddles and of course be of help to the proud new parents.
But judging by a recent school gate conversation with some mum mates - one of whom is expecting a baby very soon - I'm alone in loving having a full house after the birth of a baby.
"I couldn't have coped with people cooing over my baby in those early days when I just wanted time and space alone to adjust an bond with her," said one mum.
"The thought of a steady stream of visitors fills me with horror - imagine all the cups of tea you'd have to make unless they were the very considerate type - and if they were, they'd surely be leaving you in peace to recover from giving birth," said another.
Now maybe I'm just blessed with exceedingly kind and considerate friends and relatives but like I said, being cocooned in the bosom of people who loved us in those early days of adjusting to life with a new baby was just lovely.
And yes, they made their own cups of tea. In fact I remember both my mum and my mother-in-law repeatedly transforming my kitchen from a site of complete chaos to a scene of domestic calm in the days after my babies were born - they were true domestic goddesses at a time when that's exactly what I needed. They'd bring me a cuppa, rustle up a nutritious lunch, say soothing things when life with a new baby started feeling overwhelming, and took over from the baby wrangling when I really needed five minutes for a shower or a pee in peace.
And after the birth of my third child - a doted-on 'late' baby among my circle of friends who were mostly all very much 'done' with having babies by that point - the constant stream of visits from girlfriends bearing home-cooked meals and gorgeous gifts was utterly lovely. I felt loved, uplifted, and surrounded by people who I knew I could call on if it all got a bit too much. Interestingly, though, it never did - and I am sure that is in part because I let myself be fussed over at a time when we all need a bit more TLC than usual.
I didn't hide away, let my defences up, or stress over the logistics of looking after visitors whilst nursing a new baby. And while I can understand why some mothers do want to hide away in the early days after the birth of a baby, I think they might be missing a trick by not throwing open their homes and letting loved ones in to spoil them a bit.
But what's your view?