Is This School Right To Do This?

Is This School Right To Do This?
22 August 2016

As back to school season descends, how many times do you anticipate dashing to the school gates carrying a forgotten lunch box / PE kit / musical instrument, this year? And how would you feel if your child's school BANNED you from dropping off items that your child forgot to take with them in the mornings?!

To my shame, ferrying forgotten bits of school kit to the school office is virtually a weekly occurrence in my house, such is the forgetfulness of my precious darlings and my own apparent inability to persuade them to remember anything. It's not helped by the fact that the school is a few minutes' walk from our house and I work from home; that definitely takes the urgency out of having to remember things for themselves as far as the kids are concerned, and even if I wanted to let them learn 'the hard way' by not taking in the stuff they forget, I really have no excuse for not nipping across the street on a quick mercy mission.

So I'd be absolutely horrified if either of the schools which my sons attend decided to sanction parents dropping off items that the kids forget to bring with them to school.

Yet that's exactly what a private school in the USA has done.

The Catholic High School for Boys posted a sign on the school front door which states:

'If you are dropping off your son's forgotten lunch, books, homework, equipment etc., please TURN AROUND and exit the building. Your son will learn to problem-solve in your absence.'

They didn't leave it at that either; the school even shared a photo of the sign on its own Facebook page which, unsurprisingly, has gone viral online.

Now, to be fair, the school teaches boys aged 14 to 18 and I'm certainly hoping that I won't still be in the habit of dropping in forgotten items to my sons' schools when they're that old.

And I can see the value of the point being made by the Principal here - that doing too much for our kids and softening the blow of their every mistake for them doesn't do much to teach them autonomy. And I'm all for encouraging our kids to be less forgetful and to take more responsibility for their own school equipment.

And yes, I reckon my kids will be perfectly able to 'problem-solve' their way out of forgetting their lunch by the time they're fourteen - I'd hope that they'd have some cash on them to buy lunch or could borrow some money from a friend.

But I'm not a fan of this way of going about it. I don't like the sanctimonious tone of the wording of the sign, or the thinly-veiled insult aimed at parents to the effect that they're failing their kids by delivering a forgotten lunch.

Frankly, I'm ok with my kids growing up knowing that I'll jump to their side if they need me to. If that means they lack autonomy, well, I generally prefer that to letting them starve.

By all means, gently make the point that students need to remember their own equipment and not really on their parents to come to their aid when they've been forgetful. I just think teaching kids autonomy at the expense of communicating graciously with parents is a bad way to go.

But what's your view? Do you think the school's approach is brilliant and would you welcome it as a parent? Or would you be cross if your child's school decided to follow suit? Leave us a comment below or join the debate over on our Facebook page.


  • Janie D.

    no chance, cos 50% of the time it's MY fault if we;ve left something cos of the rush we;re in

  • Stephanie O.

    Out rageous as thats the childs basic needs and most of the time shes rushing in last minute and its left on my buggy

  • Zoe K. are the children ment to eat if you forget to pick their lunch box up on the mad rush to get the kids dropped off on time xx

    • Katrina B.

      It's for 14-18 year olds not smaller kids, so they'd be making their own way to school, thus it would probably be their fault anyway

    • Zoe K.

      OK...There's proof I didn't read it :joy:

    • Katrina B.

      To be fair as a parent of a 6 year old my immediate response was to think WTF?! Then I read it and realised myself :joy::joy:

    • Becca R.

      If still take my child a lunch at 4,14 or 40!

    • Zoe K.

      To be fair i would still run around after my girls at any age x

  • Natalie W.

    I would remove my child from any school that refused him his meal :rage:

    • Chell E.

      It doesn't say it would refuse your child a meal, I really don't think they would let the child go hungry. But I think it is a reasonable idea for the older children, say year 5/6 as they will be going to secondary school and need to remember their basic school things as we won't be there to run around after them then. I'm not having a go just saying.

    • Katrina B.

      This is a 14-18 boy's school. Pretty sure they'd have money to buy their lunch. They should be more organised at that age.

    • Natalie W.

      My child would panic he is a worrier by nature this would cause him great distress

    • Becca R.

      Any age I'm still a parent and I'll still bring their lunches not matter what. My mum has brought lunch to me at my work because I've forgotten mine loads of times :see_no_evil::see_no_evil:

    • Katrina B.

      Then surely at 14-18 he would be organised enough to not forget then?

    • Katrina B.

      I'm pretty sure they would make allowances for kids who it would cause genuine distress to. They're just trying to teach children to be more independent which, to be fair, they should be at that age.

    • Becca R.

      It's not prison :wink::wink::joy:

  • Helen M.

    Only time my kids forgot their packed lunch it was my fault not theirs.

  • Kate H.

    I understand the reasons behind it but I don't agree with it, normally if we forget something it's because I havnt grabbed it on the way out.

  • Becca R.

    I would take my child out of a school if this was their policy!

  • Sadie N.

    Hmmmm, I know what I would say to that poster !

  • Kelly W.

    im on child 3 and no longer take forgotten PE kit or homework in. with the first 2, i would jump as soon as they text me. i got fed up of it as it was an almost daily thing. she's 12yr old and is told to get everything ready the night before. if she has time to watch tv, she has time to get stuff sorted is what i say

    • Sheena V.

      Same! My oldest is 17 & on my days off he'll text me & ask me to walk down to school with his football boots, pe kit, lunch money you name it! Nope sorry! :see_no_evil: if I'm at work he'll phone my mum! :joy:

    • Kelly W.

      when i look back i realise what a pee take it was 'bring my homework to the front desk before 11am and text me when ya do it'

      like wtf?

    • Sheena V.

      Haha yep I still get those texts! The 8 year old & 3 year old have no chance when they're at high school! :joy:

    • Sheena V.

      Haha yep I still get those texts! The 8 year old & 3 year old already know they have no chance when they're at high school! :joy:

    • Jenna C.

      I will do it when in primary as they are only little. Secondary no chance. Eldest just started first year and was a nightmare at primary for forgetting things, so now she needs to get a bit of tough love to learn.

    • Kelly W.

      yeah my older two are 19 and 17, at college and starting uni. I love that i no longer run around after them. i used to drop everything to get stuff to them

  • Victoria B.

    Outrageous!! :rage::rage:

  • Sara H.

    So what the child goes hungry for the day? :fearful:

  • Donna P.

    Id go in and Nick the head teachers lunch ! See how she's survives without it ! Stupid rule

    • Sheena V.

      They wouldn't ask them to 'survive' without lunch - they'd give them a meal & you'd owe the money the following day just like every other school!

  • Neil W.

    My school no longer allow lunches to be dropped off if forgotten. They are given a school meal

  • Clare J.

    No I wouldn't I have a 2 year old and haven't experienced school yet but if it happens I'll be having word with them and not be a happy bee!! Disgusting!

    • Katrina B.

      It's a 14-18 school, not for little children

    • Clare J.

      I'm just saying I haven't experienced it yet! This is my opinion!

    • Katrina B.

      Nobody is saying anything about your opinion, I'm just pointing out its not a normal-age school they're talking about...

    • Clare J.

      So what! I'm just saying how I would feel is that a crime? Guess it must be!

    • Katrina B.

      What are you even talking about? Is someone else commenting I can't see?? Why are you getting angry when I was just pointing out a fact and not even arguing with you?

    • Clare J.

      I'm not arguing your getting high rated because I've said my option now if you don't mind! Thank you!

  • Claire H.

    Homework is one thing lunch is another.

  • Gemma B.

    Its a school for children aged 14 to 18 so i would support the head teacher

  • Roisin L.

    hope your schools don't :grinning:

    • Rachel O.

      so am I :rolling_eyes::rolling_eyes:

  • Jess D.

    So if they have no packed lunch and no money how are they going to 'problem solve' finding a meal for the day rummage through the bins perhaps or borrow a friends scraps?

    • Kerry D.

      No school would allow a child or even young adult for that matter to starve. They'd be provided with school lunch for which parents would be billed.

  • Kelly W.

    It's a school for teenagers. Don't get your knickers in a twist.

  • Emma W.

    As its a school for 14-18 yr olds...I dont think its a bad idea (assuming they allow the children to order a school lunch and dont make them starve...which I doubt they would!)

  • Katrina B.

    I don't think many read it - it's a 14-18 boys school, they're pretty much getting themselves ready and to school at that age so too right! This isn't 5 year old kids they're talking about...

    • Elizabeth M.

      I think you are right Katrina, I don't think many read it! :D My mum never bought me anything when I forgot stuff because we lived too far away! :D I survived lol! :D My mates bought my lunch and I suffered the consequences for PE Kit & Homework ;)

    • Katrina B.

      I know what response I'd have got from my Mum at that age; "tough!" Totally agree if it was a primary school, but people are getting their knickers in a twist because they've not actually read it ha ha!

  • Kelly W.

    they dont refuse a child a meal. they get given a school meal and you owe a days money. thats always been the case with my kids at school

  • Ang M.

    So the teachers are perfect and never forget anything either? Mmm I wonder

    • Kate H.

      We forget things all the time. Then we deal with the consequences using coping strategies. The school in question is seeking to help their pupils to develop such coping strategies, and to take some personal responsibility.

    • Ang M.

      I understand that but as I said earlier everybody and I mean everybody at some point forgets to take all they need with them every single day and there is so much pressure put on high school pupils just for the exam results it's not about them anymore just their pass rate.

    • Ang M.

      I totally agree Rebecca Bennett but something needs to be done as teachers and pupils getting so stressed.

  • Andrew B.

    how do you think that would go down haha

    • Beth A.

      It wouldn't go down very well but it's definitely a good idea haha

  • Sharon B.

    This is aimed at boys aged 14-18. Enhance your calm people. If your 17 year old is still having mummy run his lunch to him, then you got issues.

  • Laura E.

    This is a school for 14 to 18 year olds, I would certainly expect a child that age to remember their own things. Now my son is in year 6, I'm expecting him to remember what he needs at school like his books, p.e kit and water bottle. He has school dinners though, so that's not up to him

    • Danielle H.

      I don't know. I'm 25 and I still forget things all the time. It's just part of being human.... and a mum :joy:

    • Laura E.

      In forgetful too. I also had a lot done for me and it's not helped me as an adult at all x

    • Danielle H.

      I had to to everything for myself and it's honestly not helped me as am adult. I think it's literally just pot luck whether u are someone who remembers everything or someone who doesn't. Haha x

    • Joanna P.

      My son is 17 and has a memory like a sieve

    • Sanna G.

      My son has dyspraxia and really struggles to remember things.. He's starting secondary school next week and I really hope he can try to find strategies to help him remember pe kit, letters, homework etc!!

  • Kate E.

    As the age of the children is 14 to 18.fair enough. If it was a primary school that would be different

  • Laura C.

    Lunch I in no way agree with. But books etc yes deffo. My son only turned 7 on Friday, and if he doesn't remember his book bag, homework etc. He goes to school without it and has to explain to his teacher why he hasn't got it. Never too young to be taught to remember their stuff once they're of school age.

  • Harriet L.

    Understand this, it's an older school and not primary. Lunches can be ordered if needs be and the rest can be arranged to be taken in at another point. Also with older schools the classes are all over the school and the poor receptionist has to try find where said child is!

  • Sara D.

    I think it's disgusting and I'm getting sick and tired of schools thinking they can rule everyone's life! They are our children not anyone else's! Would they provide them with a free lunch if they do not allow you to take in a forgotten lunch I doubt it! And as for the home work I think it's a load of rubbish! They go to school 6 hours a day if they can't fit it all into their school schedule they are clearly giving them to much! Home time is family time and I do not agree they should spend it doing homework!!!

    • Tara M.

      I agree Primary schools shouldn't be given homework. My kids get homework in the bloody holidays too! Bugger tothat shit! When a child get home they should be allowed to chill, have family and friends time and not have to worry about school till the next morning! I think reading and spellings are ok as they take no time at all but the projects etc the kids get sent home to do is pathetic!

    • Lorinda C.

      Easy home school no one forces you to put your child in mainstream

    • Sara D.

      Tara Michelle my kids aren't at school yet as they are only 2yrs and 3 months but I see what my nieces get and some of the maths questions I wouldn't even be able to answer haha. I think high school students should have some because of their exams but I don't agree with the amount they get. These teachers get paid to teach our children so why should we do it at home, Id like to think we can spend that time doing fun things! Yes I agree with you reading and spelling is fine.

    • Louise D.

      Most schools have a homework policy. Teachers have to set a certain amount. This is due to parents complaining they have too much. For all those that complain there's too much there tends to be more who complain they don't get enough :confused:

    • Julie-Ann A.

      It's called independent learning and helps the teachers to see which kids are not really understanding the work. Kids will get different amounts of homework depending on their age. Tbh your attitude towards schools may be a problem. Like pp said - homeschooling is an option if you can't see the value in mainstream schools. Parents needed work with schools.

    • Gemma M.

      My son hasn't even started reception yet.... and he's been sent a work book of homework to do before he starts! Once he does, he will be in by 7.30 until I collect at 6. We won't get home until 6.45 and will need feeding and bathing before bed. Not sure where he is meant to fit homework in too?!?!

    • Tara M.

      Gemma i think thats to help the teachers understand what level the child is at (my 2 at school had to do it too) but i do understand about not getting home till late etc, it is silly.

    • Julie-Ann A.

      Gemma Meyrick at that age I would expect homework to be little more than parents reading with children. Your childcare can do homework with the school kids. Being a working parent is rough.

    • Cat B.

      Gemma Meyrick I agree with you. To be fair when i was at primary school we didn't get homework (other than reading) until secondary school- and I've still got 11 GCSEs, 3 a levels and a law degree. Extra work so young is wrong. Even at secondary school it was only an hour max really each night- unless we'd had a 6 week project that id left till the night before :smirk::speak_no_evil:

    • Sara D.

      yeah I get that but we don't hardly get time with our children as it is with them being at school (obviously my children are at nursery as they are to young for school) and us being at work so all I'm saying is shouldn't the little time we do get be spent doing fun things! Ha why is my attitude towards school a problem? I learnt very little at school I got my both jobs that I am qualified for on my own I failed most of my gcse's yet my mum made sure I did every little bit of my homework and attended school every day unless I was seriously ill! I do see the value of them "going to school" where they do school work all I'm saying is I don't agree with them having to come home and do more work when they are doing it at school!

    • Kate H.

      I certainly don't enjoy spending every night marking homework - I'd much rather be spending that time with my family, so I would fully support the abolition of homework. Sadly, parents tend to complain if we don't set it.

    • Matthew N.

      I agree with Sara Dibb, why should we have to spend our own time helping to educate our own children, that is the job of poorly paid and overworked teachers. Parents should just be able to do the fun stuff and not have to bother trying to raise educated, intelligent children. Soap operas and reality TV doesn't watch itself you know!

    • Sara D.

      Matthew Nowell ha I don't sit my ass in front of the tv I spend my evenings playing with my children which is another way of learning through imagination! And then when they go to bed I'm doing housework! I'm not saying we shouldn't help them learn but they go to school for a reason, I pay privately for my children to go to nursery and I'd happily pay for them to go to a private school it's not all about money! If it was teachers wouldn't become teachers based on what they are getting paid! They do it for the love of the job!

    • Sophie F.

      Sara Dibb they really don't do it for the love of the job my mum is stuck in her job and because of her age she won't get paid the same salary in another career. Most new teachers quit after the first year and I agree with that sign. Parents constantly pandering to their children teaches them nothing. Common sense - gone, problem solving- gone, coping under pressure- gone. I'm 28 and already working with younger people I can see how the younger generation are being failed.

    • Morag W.

      Well said x

    • Andrew C.

      Can i just say that both my kids get homework at the age of 6 and 9. May i just say that my kids love doing their homework and teaches them a small amount of responsibility....also i class it as family time as i spend time helping them with their homework...teaching your own kids is the greatest gift you can give your child and if parents have a problem with that then maybe they should not be parents. Also children should be allowed to learn from their if they forget to do somethi g they need to learn what the consequences are. We have lived in a namby pamby nanny state for too long and we should respect our kids a bit more and trust them to do the right thing under our guidance.

    • Sara D.

      I'm all for teaching our kids I'm not saying that I'm saying they go to school for a reason, when I go to work I don't take that work home with me! Just because I have an opinion does not mean I shouldn't be a parent, the government and schools seem to be having this big thing of making us pander to every one of their requests by having to do large amounts of homework, kids can only drink water, they can only take healthy things in packed lunches, we can only take them out of school when they say so, I'm not totally against homework just not loads and loads of it, when my kids are at school by the time I get home from work I'm hardly going to have any time with them before bed time and I don't think that time should be spent sat doing homework.

  • Samantha R.

    Our school is same. If u forget a lunch they will give them a dinner tht u then have to pay for. Same with books and pe bags wont take them in !!!

    • Kate J.

      They stop you taking food in then charge you for their food?! How rude!

    • Samantha R.

      If u forget the lunch they wont accept it at reception now. N yh then charge u for dinner !!!

    • Kate J.

      That's so odd! Maybe if someone was persistently forgetting but not a one off

    • Samantha R.

      Even a one off !

    • Kate J.


    • Samantha R.

      I think its awful !

  • Emmanuell A.

    Horrible idea, what a way to make kids feel inadequate.

  • Julie C.

    Fight comes to mind lol x

  • Kira G.

    Are they going to feed them if they have forgotten their lunch? Or starve them? Me personally if I wanted to drop off something to my child then I will.

  • Tara M.

    Asswipes!!! I'd drag my son out of the school grounds and take him for lunch if they wanna be dicks! Schools try and control our kids and us way to much these days!

  • Lorna B.

    Books, homework, p.e kit fair enough, but not their lunch box. I would kick off big style if they didn't let me leave their lunch and I thought they might not have had something to eat

  • Jill B.

    Bet they wouldn't tell the parent to turn away if the child had a important rugby,football are hockey match,and they forgotten something,my child's school would be pleased at the parents coming in with the football boots,school skip etc ,if the child forgotten something.

  • Lindsay D.

    Primary school no not acceptable but high school yes definitely. Kids won't learn if you run after them for everything. Not sure it's the schools place to dictate that to every parent though that's your own choice.

  • Elizabeth M.

    For older kids definitely..I wouldn't go running for senior school/academy age! :) Problem solving can quite simply mean asking the dinner ladies what options are available :)

  • Kimberley H.

    I would expect children of that age to be taking some responsibility for their own things especially homework, PE kits etc.

  • Claire B.

    To be fair at age 14 they should be remembering their own things - I was at that age

  • Melanie T.

    Love this about time kids are taught responsibility

  • Sharon B.

    if my daughter forgets she forgets. She is 7, but she has like 3 things to remember - homework, playpeice and jacket. If she forgets one she will survive! She will grump about it after though but she makes an effort to remember them for next time. My 3 yr old can assemble all his stuff for nursery, so its not rocket science. So yes, completely fair for teenagers.

  • Hayley L.

    If they can remember their mobile they can remember their lunch

  • Gemma R.

    Kids make mistakes as do Adults. Well if that was in Birmingham it would of been picked up and turned around and threw out the exit. :ok_hand_tone2:

  • Claire B.

    I think it's fine. None of these are life or death situations. At some stage kids need to take responsibility for their actions, and 14 is old enough. If we keep fixing problems for our children they will never learn the skills necessary to do it themselves.

  • Richard C.

    It's a bit much not allowing lunch to be dropped off! Kids can easily work around other things like books or pe kit

  • Regina P.

    Aww it's for 14-18 year old boys! That's diff than PS kids

  • Fiona S.

    For those of you referring to age I'm 29 and forget things regularly. I pop into a shop for my lunch and thank God for technology and remote access to my documents otherwise I'd be stuffed. I would disregard this notice it's not helpful.

  • Karen H.

    Everyone forgets sometimes, now and then kids need to know you will help them out because they forgot (most things can be scanned and email, homework etc). But if your child is disorganised and puts TV/games before homework/bag packing then they do need to learn. No lunch/lunch money then I think the school have a duty of care to provide something like a sandwich and fruit and water to drink and make sure it's not a regular occurrence.

    Also if parents work how are they supposed to be able to get these items to school that day?

  • Kelley G.

    At the end of the day, their human, like all of us now and again we forget things when we go to work etc! And now and again we all call on loved ones to help us out if we need something. So no I don't fully agree this.

  • Tania W.

    I think it solves that child can actually be responsible for themselves! Mine have to remember their book bags and homework at 5 and 7 and their coats or whatever else if they forget I'm not dropping it off! Packed lunch well they have school provided so one less thing to worry about :blush:

  • Sarah E.

    I would take lunch in at the end of the day I'm not going to let my child hungry the rest i couldnt care about

  • Maria B.

    Holy !!!!! :thinking:! Well I'd be removing them from the school

  • Carrie W.

    It says sons so you can drop your daughters lunch off :laughing:

    • Katrina B.

      It's a boy's school, but I did think that at first :joy:

  • Cath F.

    Both my big one had workbooks to do before starting school. Its to help with knowing their abilities and their was about them. So I was used by the teacher as an aid to talk to the child and get to know them... As for the Lunches I'm shocked, surely under their duty of care they should ensure the child eats... I would be raising this with the local authority

  • Clare B.

    For this age group it's absolutely fine. My son is 13 and if he doesn't take what he needs to school then it's his problem. Obviously primary age children are different, but as soon as they are in senior school it's up to the child once they've been reminded by the parent.

  • Helen N.

    Both my children were told that senior school meant responsibility. Not only would I not deliver forgotten equipment, anything lost had to be replaced at their expense. The only exception was if it was the fault of someone else. At 14 they are plenty old enough to take responsibility for their own belongings.

  • Lauren B.

    Yeah older kids fair enough but not little ones

  • Aaron M.


  • Leah A.

    14-18 or not there could of been anything That happened that made them forget. Everyone has a forgetful moment every once in a while people with anxiety and stress even more so . What a ridiculous idea :rage:

  • Rachel A.

    I supose that would depend on whether the school is happy to provide your child with a lunch and if they want to charge you for it and if they are going to keep your child in at break to get his homework done when the problem could have been solved by the parent handing both items in. You can be as organised as you like but everyone forgets something some of the time.

  • Jaime H.

    It's condescending.

  • Victoria G.

    so this is where kids learn to steal lunch money from others, talk about creating a bully, daft shits!. why do the kids get punished for the parents actions. Love the pressure for todays youth!

  • Nicola H.

    I would turn round and take my children out of the school

  • Melanie A.

    No I don't agree. Whose to say they won't singled out my child because I forget to hand him something or check that he had everything he needed. Your job as a parent doesn't stop suddenly because your child is 14-18

  • Anne B.

    My mum and dad were both at work every minute I was in school (they were teachers!) so I never had anything dropped off. That said, I'm less organised than my mum was, so sometimes take things my primary children need. I think by secondary school it's reasonable to expect children to have it sorted or cope with the lecture - schools aren't going to let kids go hungry! I'd be ok with that sign at a 14-18 yrs school.

  • Margarida D.

    Do they ever forget their phones? No! No excuse for forgetting anything else!

  • Penny F.

    Make sure they have it before leaving the house

  • Kathy H.

    That's reduclious. Might as well just home school your kids.

  • Katie T.

    What concerns me most isn't the school saying a child should learn to organise themselves, do their homework and hand it in at the right time. Yeah, everyone has to learn the rules and stick to them, that's part of living in a functioning society. It's the refusal to accept a childs lunch coming in late that gets me. People need to eat at regular invervals. Children more so than adults. As an adult you can skip lunch or breakfast, safe in the knowledge that you can grab something to eat a bit later. A kid goes into school with no packed lunch probably has to make the choice of being hungry all day or using their bus fare to get food or a drink. That's even if they have a bus fare. What about the kids living close enough to not 'need' a bus fare? 45 minute lunch break. 20 minutes to walk to their home, 5 minutes to get what they can from the fridge and 20 minutes to walk back to school. That's if they have been considered responsible enough to have a key to get into the house. What about those kids that for whatever reason their home was running late that morning? They had to leave still eating their breakfast and no one had the time to make sure their lunch was made or lunch money was in their hands? Does the school provide a meal as a one off or starve a child all day? What happens when you go to work and realise you left your bank card or packed lunch at home? Do you raid petty cash, borrow a tenner of a collegue, call someone who's at home to bring your lunch? Yes you do. Why is that different for someone at school?

  • Jess D.

    Books homework yeah i get thats part of learning responsibility but lunch i disaggree with infact thats discusting kids need to eat at regular times if tgey dont concentration lacks and learning is affected! Mornings tend to be crazy for most familys no one is perfect its pathetic banning this x

  • Siobhan P.

    This is a tad ridiculous if they forget their lunch what are they supposed to I'm guessing they won't have money. I would have ring my mum got her to drop it off and said there I'm problem solving j called my mum haha

  • Julie C.

    Yes I agree with books and PE kit etc. Not with lunches though. Unless they're going to provide bread/butter then yes. But only for secondary school. Never primary.

    • Julie C.

      That's awful. Gone are the days they gave you hot dinner if you forgot your lunch...

  • Allison C.

    My son attend a school that open from 3 years old to 19 years. For moderate learning disabilities. I always have do sons bag as he won't remember to do it. I can't do anything when he tells me oh I got this and that today just before he goes to school.

  • Sarah G.

    If I forgot my daughters lunch and the school wouldn't let me take it in I'm afraid she would be coming home!

  • Julia P.

    If my son....who is seven forgets kit or homework I don't take it in....He needs to learn to take responsibility for his stuff. I'd assume that if they are turning away lunches then they have provision to lend a couple of quid per day to kids who forget their lunch....provided they ask.....which may prompt in future.....If the kids are 14/18 years old and parents are still running round after this level....isn't that a bit ridiculous?

  • Rebekah C.

    Why can't we help and look after our children anymore ?

  • Debbie P.

    I think the message is right, children do have to learn to cope when something goes wrong, otherwise they end up with no skills because it's all been sorted out for them. However in this case I think the way the school has gone about it is totally wrong. Bulldozing their way through a concerned parents anxiety is not at all helpful. Parents are very often programmed to worry about their children. The school could communicate much more effectively than this :upside_down:

  • Lynn G.

    Think it would very much depend on the age as young children I would have to disagree but as they get older I do believe in natural consequences in that if you have enough time to be on your phone or watching TV then you have enough time to sort yourself out and if you Don't then you deal with the consequence. At some point they have to start taking responsibility.

  • Trish N.

    Wow so many people believe once you reach the grand old age of 14 your suddenly never allowed to forget anything like you don't forget as an adult never mind a child my 13 yr old won't suddenly turn into a person who never makes mistakes or forgets when he turns 14 and I won't be forgetting he is still a child

  • Lukasz F.

    Stop thinking for your children in such minor things!

  • Anna M.

    I'm 34 and I still forget my lunch. Luckily that's why we have bank cards and shops that sell butties.

  • Cheryl B.

    Book, equipment, homework. Yeah fine, they need to learn to be responsible and not be bailed out by mum and dad all the time. Getting bailed out only teaches laziness and an attitude of.... Don't worry mum or dad will sort it. However, as far as lunch in concerned, we have all forgotten things an need a little help sometimes, I will always make sure my children have their meals no matter what and if they forget it I will take it to them weather the school likes it or not. X

  • Sue R.

    A world gone mad !!!

  • Joanna P.

    Very heartless and sexist notice !

  • Joanna P.

    I will take stuff in to help them,but charge them 50p for petrol!

  • Laura B.

    I think it's a fantastic idea. Kids need to make mistakes, to forget learn about responsibility and consequence. This isn't little kids we are talking about either. And the school have said there are the resources available on site to resolve all problems.

    Some parents really need to stop doing everything for their kids... Let them stand on their own two feet for their own good!!

  • Lynn M.

    I don't agree with it, but also understand how stretched state schools are, it can be a time-consuming problem when loads of parents forget.

    • Rachel D.

      Chris and I were talking about how parents do too much for their kids and they will never learn that sometimes it's just tough luck. Sometimes you just have to wear the borrowed manky school kit but perhaps you will remember to bring it yourself next time :relaxed:

  • Sarah B.

    Sounds like something out school would do!

  • Chris D.

    I agree 100%

  • Kimberly F.

    Problem solve?? What go and dig for food?? That's ridiculous!

  • Laura C.

    I refuse to take my 13 yr old son anything to school he forgets... he is one of 4 and i work for a living... the only thing he needs to remember in the morning are his trainers and drink bottle... running around after him isnt preparing him for the big wide world hes facing in 3 yrs...give them some responsibility... a detention for forgetting isnt gna ruin their lives but will defo make them think nxt time. My children kno they are loved and adored... i dont need to be up the school every 3 seconds to prove that!!

  • Nathan M.

    If a parent is running around after their 14 - 18 year old (assuming they have no conditions affecting memory, etc), then there is something wrong - young adults of this age should not be forgetting things such as books, lunch, money, etc.

    It is all good planning for later life!

    Ultimately,of a parent doesn't agree with a schools rules, there will be other schools available which have a rule book which the parent can accept.

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