Birthday parties can be stressful at the best of times and party bags are a particular minefield these days, aren’t they?
First there’s the pressure to make your own party bags (thanks, Pinterest) rather than buy them, and then there’s the question of whether you should fill them with cheap silly stuff that kids will love but that you know will probably make the parents curse you.
Like I said: minefield.
But how would you feel if a parent RETURNED a party bag you’d given their child on the basis that it was TOO generous?
The Sun reports:
A mum was left "livid" and "fuming" when her daughter's friend RETURNED her party bag, with a note from her mum shaming the contents, leaving the birthday girl feeling "really embarrassed”.
It seems the mum allowed her daughter to invite four friends over to watch a film and eat pizza to celebrate her 11th birthday, and, because it was such an inexpensive party, she decided to splurge a little on the party bags.
At a cost of £12.50 per party bag, she filled them with pens, a personalised notepad, a nail varnish set, a book, a pair of novelty socks, sweets and a slice of birthday cake.
But one mum insisted that her child return the party bag on the basis that it was too extravagant so she couldn’t let her child accept it.
What the ever-loving-mercy?
In my book, returning a party bag, under any circumstances, is just plain rude. Who knows what was going on in the mum’s mind to make her feel justified in doing so – we all make less than brilliant decisions from time to time, and she might have been over-reacting in a way that she later regretted.
But even if I didn't feel comfortable allowing my child to accept an expensive party bag, I don't think I'd go so far as to relay this to the parent of the birthday kid. What's the point?
My lads were once given toy guns instead of party bags and it was an awkward moment – for reasons too lengthy to go in to, we didn't allow them to play with guns at that stage. But I kept my feelings on the issue to myself and appreciated the generosity, which totally delighted my kids. I might have mislaid those guns at a later date, but I wouldn't have dreamt of returning them – that would surely only have made the other parents feel weird, and created tension.
Life's too short to return a party bag, is my view. But what's yours? Leave us a comment below or come and join the conversation on our social media channels. And don't forget to take part in our poll...