Is Actress Chloe Sevigny Right To Say Having Kids Ages A Woman?

Motherhood Ages You. Is Chloe Right?
1 July 2016

Most mums I know are pretty happy to speak plainly about the changes that motherhood has brought to their bodies. Whether you're uncomfortable with your 'mum tum' (and I hate that phrase) or feel proud of having 'earned' your stretch marks, most of us are fairly open about the fact that our bodies just don't look like they did before we had kids.

But while it's one thing for a mum to open up about the effect on her body of having a baby, it feels like quite another thing for someone who hasn't had kids to comment on that particular personal issue.

Or am I alone in thinking that?

You see, I felt surprised by how much my feathers were ruffled when I read about comments made by actress Chloe Sevigny in a recent magazine interview.

When asked how she manages to look like she doesn't ever age, Sevigny reportedly said:

"I think the baby wear and tear and stress on your body is part of the reason why people say, 'Why do you still look so young?' I really think that that unfortunately ages women, especially when they have children in their 30s, not in their 20s. So I think, first and foremost, it's that and genetics."

Er, cheers Chloe. Way to make the mothers feel great. Not.

Then again, maybe she's just speaking the truth, and motherhood does age you. But maybe it's not something to view as 'unfortunate', either. It's a well-worn cliche but I've heard mums say countless times that there's no contest on this - they'd rather have their babies and saggy boobs than a youthful body but no kids.

And then of course there are those mums who miraculously find the motivation to work on having a beautiful body as well taking care of their kids. I'm not one of them. In fact I spent all morning *thinking* about signing up for an early morning summer spin class. And then I made us all pancakes for lunch instead.

So you'll understand that I've settled comfortably into the fact that I won't be entering any body beautiful contests dressed in a minscule bikini any time soon. And I am more than ok with that.

My body might not be much to speak of but when my three year old climbs into bed beside me in the morning and whispers 'You're beautiful Mama,' I can promise you I couldn't give a toss about whether or not I look my age.

How do you feel about this story? Would you agree that motherhood has aged you, or do you think Chloe was speaking out of turn? And if you do feel that having kids has aged you, do you care? Join the conversation by commenting below or over on our Facebook page.

59 comments

  • Gail S.

    I certainly have more grey hairs and bags now.

  • Leah F.

    It does! Im constantly knackered! Lol...but i wouldnt change a thing <3

  • Helen M.

    I think it's more the lack of sleep, good nutrition, stress and lack of time to beautify which ages you. With an army of helpers behind you, you can avoid getting old before your time. I wouldn't have it any other way though than taking the good with the bad however :kissing_heart:

  • Christina F.

    Well I got my first grey hair 5 months after my son was born at the age of 26 just saying lol

    • Gillian C.

      Ill be 23 tomorrow & have 2 grey hairs :joy: my babies are only 1 & 2 x

  • Helen H.

    I agree it does age you but that's all part of the process But do I care ? No I love my babies and that's all that matters they come first I come last there needs arnt always sociable hours but we just get on with it, it's not rocket science children or no children, broken sleep, no time to eat balanced food or even skipping meals would have an effect on anyone's body, probly a premature ageing one not to mention the pregnancy & birth X

  • Andy W.

    men also we worry what the daughter is going to bring home and what the son is up to

    • Andy W.

      im a single parent gave every thing up will do it again and again the gains outway the loses the weed they give u thinking its a flower hand made cards etc

  • Caroline S.

    Er yes! Lol :smile:

  • Caroline S.

    Here's a shocker.....the ageing process ages you!! :joy: I have three beautiful children under the age of 10. People genuinely tell me I look younger now than I did on my wedding day just over 10 years ago. Lucky genes maybe! :grin: I have been blessed with good health so far. I have had episodes of tiredness where I have felt like running away for a week long sleep. But I survived. My body sometimes moans at me, but I think I would dwell on it more if I didn't have children. As cliched as it sounds, my babies really did complete me. And every day give me zest for life X :two_hearts:

    • Andy W.

      teenage yearsto come

    • Caroline S.

      Andy Wagstaff I'm leaving home then :grin:

  • Holly P.

    It definitely does age you but for all the right reasons, you give everything to your children including sleep and that's the way it should be :sleeping:

  • Danielle C.

    Yes it does. :joy::joy:

  • Claire J.

    To be honest, I couldn't give a flying f what Chloe Sevigny has to say - we don't share the same shoes. Yes, I am far more tired now I am a parent but I'm also glad I don't have to think about me me me every waking minute. I'll take my deal any day.

  • Gemma H.

    Yes it does :joy: but it's worth it x

  • Kayleigh S.

    Yes absolutely xx

  • Maxine C.

    Yes it most definitely does.. But i don't care my children are worth it all :thumbsup: we are all healthy so thats all that matters to me :blush:

  • Faye M.

    Keeps you young at heart bur yes it does age you, no sleep baggy eyes stress xx

  • Cara J.

    I don't know but they sure as hell make you look more tired :joy::joy::joy:

  • Emma G.

    I totally agree, especially with women in their thirties. You look much better for having lack of sleep in your twenties

  • Stacey D.

    It definitely has aged me but I wouldn't change it for anything my beautiful boy makes my life so much more magical :blue_heart::heart_eyes:

  • Laura K.

    Yup!!! I love my babies to bits but I feel 64 not 34!!!!!!

  • Samantha W.

    Hell yes

  • Diane T.

    I have two childeren n i actually look better than b4 i had kids lol

  • Colin W.

    Badge of honour

  • Danielle M.

    Of course having kids ages you. I've grown up so much since becoming a mammy, more each time in fact. Sleepless nights etc all contribute but the responsibility alone makes you more mature and the more mature you appear the older you appear fact lol

  • Emma O.

    I just turned 27. Have a 3 year old and and 8 month old. Since i hit the pubs aged 16 (yes i know undr age) until turning 27 (so 11 years) i have probably been asked for ID maybe 15 to 20 times. In the 3 weeks ive been 27 already been asked 5 times.. ...Im saying having kids makes you younger :joy::joy:

    Seriously though my boys keep me active and im a lot more healthy too. So i feel young! :heart_eyes:

  • Rachael C.

    Does age you! Best thing ever to have happened to me but I'm more tired and older looking as I'm looking after everyone else not myself :smiley::sleeping: xxx

  • Kerris S.

    Bitch! She looks like she could do with a good night sleep too, probably too many celebrity parties.

    • Corinne C.

      Lol! Your comment made me laugh :grimacing: Exactly, too much partying/drinking is ageing as well, so we can't win...

  • Kelly I.

    Who cares as long as your young at heart and enjoy life and make many happy memories. Everyones physical appearance is garenteed to deteriorate regardless of kids.

  • Lyndsay C.

    If she means stress wrinkles, bags under the eyes and the moment you have responsibility then I guess yes.

  • Georgina C.

    I think she can't have kids and she covering up. It wasn't awful what she said - get a grip she's not a bitch she's diverting stupid questions before they arrive.

  • Kathryn R.

    It's obviously someone who hasn't had kids asking the question, lol!

  • Tracey C.

    I think the baby wear and tear and stress on your body is part of the reason why people say, 'Why do you still look so young?' ' I really think that that unfortunately ages women, especially when they have children in their 30s, not in their 20s.

    That is absolutely rubbish...life ages you have nothing to do with being a mum.....I am a day older today than I was yesterday...I know women who had kids in there 20s look older than some women who had kids later in life

  • Nicola T.

    Yes yes yes

  • Rosie L.

    She is probably right. I don't feel insulted by what she says - it's a *general* statement of truth. It doesn't apply to everyone, as with most things. As a parent, *in general* I feel I get less sleep, have more worries/responsibility (emotional, practical and financial) and less 'me' time than my child free friends. Simple. But I wouldn't swap, even though they drive me crazy. Life would be less hectic but emptier without my kids in it.

    • Nikki N.

      Like like like this! Couldnt have put it better myself!

  • Katryn J.

    I have a 2 and 3 year old and It has definitely aged me!! I've never looked so rough!

  • MazT

    Erm lets not forget the stylists, hairdressers and make up artists she uses regularly I imagine! Not to mention the ample free time she has to spend on herself to keep herself looking that way! Before I had a baby I too maintained a well groomed look - I'm not sure if actually having a baby ages you itself (although less sleep probably plays a part) but just not having enough TIME to groom ourselves, get facials and excersice that's where the problems may lie! Wouldn't change a thing x

      

  • Claire F.

    It's aged me mentally. My memory is knackered :joy::joy:

  • Lou W.

    Ooo yeah we look well old :older_woman:... :joy::joy:

  • Samantha M.

    Yes she is and it does. Fact.

  • Lesley S.

    I was 28 when I had my first and I didn't know the meaning of worry until I had him. I had my last at 37 but felt more like 77! Having kids definitely aged me. It put worry lines on my face.

  • Natalie L.

    Dont agree at all. Think they keep you young

  • Tracy M.

    I certainly FEEL older! But people who see me every few years say I look younger than ever before!

  • Samantha D.

    She's not wrong!! :joy:

  • Nikki H.

    Some people age fast, some slow. Kids and the stress can definitely contribute. So can your boss, your crappy ex bf/gf, money worries etc etc. I suffer all these issues..... I'm getting old very very fast lol :joy::joy::joy:

  • Jenny G.

    Damn right it does it's the sleep deprivation that's aged me:joy:but I wouldn't have it any other way:heart_eyes:

  • Marie T.

    Yeah I think so :joy:

  • Pregi G.

    Yeh it makes u younger coz u get to play with all the things u did as a kid lol I'd say smoking ages u far more I.e wrinkles/lines etc... At least my lines come from laughter :joy:

  • Nicola P.

    It does age you because your constantly tired and don't get time to think about yourself and how you look but my life would be boring without my kids and they will always come first no matter what but she's right most people say the same

  • Jen L.

    Yes she can say it.... it's her opinion! What a ridiculous debate! Whether she is right or wrong in anyone's opinions who are reading this - it's her opinion!!!

  • Katie L.

    I'm 30 with two kids, 10 and 4, and people think I look about 24 so i don't think it does lol it's all about how u look after yourself,

  • Stacey C.

    I agree it does x

  • Danielle P.

    I've aged at least 10 years in the last 2&1/2 after having my two!!!

  • Laura P.

    She's damn right :joy::joy::grin:

  • Claire W.

    I have a child and I look younger than most of my friends the same age without children. It's all about genetics and your lifestyle.

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