Playpennies

It is the excitement of the first child. You smile nicely at her, be polite, and just ignore the request. If they push it just say a firm no. I am a step mother, and I knew my other half had children when we got married, and that was always a part of our equation. If you and he were still together and having a fourth child, would you say to each other OK lets not spend money on the other three now, we need it for this one? If he's only paying his fair dues, and you're already working as much as you can, then there's probably no leeway for you to take a cut in money.

I can understand why she'd want to do that but I'd not fret on it too much. It isn't your problem and your job is to do the best for your kids. End Of. What sort of person was your ex? If it was my ex I'd be concerned about what he was putting this new partner through. He was so, my money is mine. I can just imagine him using the ex and his other kids as a reason for not contributing any of his money and having an expectation that his new partner would go back to work straight away. But if that's the case don't get involved - don't give her your take on the sort of games your ex plays. She won't listen, she'll tell him, and it will all get blown out of proportion. I've seen that happen! Resist no matter how good your intentions, you'll only get painted as the bitter ex.

oh dear she must really be feeling the pinch. How old are your kids now? I know what it is like in that first year, it can be so tough.